Me and my wife have been together since we were , both 16 , we were in the same school year and that is where we meet . We have 4 children ages 13/16/25/29 all girls . We are now both 45 . We have never had any other sexual experience . With any others , are sex together as always been very raunchy I would say . She as always liked lots of toys are collection of those have grown to quite a collection over the years and I have always enjoyed her dressing up in kinky under wear , high heel sandels in the bedroom ect .frequency of sex as always been a issue for us with all the kids around in the house most of the time . My wife also works nights as a midwife . I work days so a lot to juggle around but it how it’s is . We try to book hotel get aways when we can. The first thing I come up with was for us to spend a night in a sex dungeon , which was pretty local to us which was a fun night . However we have never visited again. So far . So I have always been interested in the lifestyle and the idea of it but never new have to bring it up in conversation . But I did and her first reaction was not good as I expected ( I’m not doing that) so I eased right of and never mentioned it for a while , until I stumbled across adult clothing optional vacation . Thought it could be fun for us as we have never gone anywhere before on are own as a couple . I thought all the dressing up in sexy clothing on the evenings would be up are street . So I asked her if she would go first she said no then came around . 7 moths later that was it no turning back of we go uk to mexico . Desire . We arrived and meet some amazing people . My wife remained very reserved all week as I expected as it was a bit in the deep end for us to be fair . But even though she never got fully naked in the day , her confidence did grow on the sexy out fits as the week went on and it was nice for as to have a sneaky look at the lifestyle . My wife said it’s fun , but actually partner swapping would never be for her as she could not see another women touch me . Which I was I littel bit disappointed ., as I would like to see us progress slowly . So my next adventure for us was to try a club so I booked a club for us in Rotterdam Fun4two great plaice by the way . Short plane ride from the uk . My hope was to be social with other couples and maybe play just a small bit if my wife felt ok with it . However even though it was a great night and good experience for us on are first real club vist she was not ready , how ever we did get to watch some other couple a bit for the first time and I think we were both turned on by what we seen . So we come home then a few months past and we decided to try all club here in the uk , so we did another good night very sexy plaice indeed my intension was the same for us to play together if she has the confidence to do so . AND WE did !!! Wow it was amazing to the point were I over cooked it to soon like a teenager left her turned on and wanting more , but I geuss first time doing anything like that got me a bit heated to soon . So I thought I’d just like to share are journey so far whitch as took us a couple years to get here . I just think it’s harder for us as there as never been anyone else . Should I be grateful for where we have got ? But I still can’t help think um would be erotic to see her do some soft swap even though it’s of the table at present . Any one else had the same thing ? Do more visits mean more confidence in time ? I’d like to hear you long timers advice . I know I would never want to ruin my marriage over it . As it’s just for fun