We were communicating with a single male on an app, he was 41, seemed decent although his photos were a few years out of date, but still not a bad looking fella. We were discussing a potential meet up and putting our vibe out and what we as a couple/ parents have to do to get it going.

He requested face pics, he had shown his, our reply was we are new to this and prefer to see if we can make this happen before sharing face pics, I feel like he avoided our boundary and asked again just so there is mutual attraction which we understand, imo I felt like he could have let that one go so that was a bit of a red flag.

As we go further into conversation he asks what we like and we give him some details eg I enjoy watching wife being pleasured, wife enjoys foreplay and kissing and we both agreed once ready we enjoy participating in DP.

We had organised babysitter on our end and we were ready to move forward so asked him if he would be available on another date as the initial date that worked for us did not work for him, so wife asks him his availability. Rather than answering that he hangs off the DP conversation and asks if wife enjoys a “cream pie”. I get we are in this realm of discussion but felt like that term is a bit immature early on and also avoiding a serious question trying to organise this date and he just ignores it.

We felt like we are making an effort to make this happen and didn’t appreciate such an immature question so early on so decided to let him know we prefer mature and respectful men for our meets and that we will not pursue the date, he replies with apologies and tries turning it around in desperation even saying yes he is free on that date lol well that’s all it took and you rather ask a silly question than answer an important one.