Background: I met my partner 4 years ago and it turned out she also met another guy around the same time. She’s poly and wanted to continue both relationships. She ended up moving across the country with him but we still see each other monthly. It works for me, I’m very happy with it. So I’m a partnered/single male which complicates things.

Current Question: They are very active swingers. She and I aren’t because it takes a lot of time and we only see each other a couple days a month. They’ve gotten me invited to a big party with some of their closest swinger friends. The friends openly invited me as they’ve spoken about me to them.

This will be my first big swinger party. She and I have done MFMs and swaps but this group is people they mostly know. In fact, she’s told me she already has a couple guys who want time with her so she will be pretty busy. Basically, I may be on my own for much of the time (which I’m fine with) and want some tips.

You may wonder why they aren’t helping, but they are. They both know me well and say I’ll do great, but it’s just a big unknown to me so looking for some outside tips. Especially since I’ll be in a gray area of single male/partnered.

I know all the usual stuff, don’t be an ass, talk to both people when engaging a couple, consent is key, etc. Any other tips that may be specific to big house parties? There’s supposed to be 30 couples.