as i’ve stated in previous posts, me and my boyfriend (21ftm and 22ftm) want to start swinging. i know some couples are soft swap and some are hard swap and there’s everything in between, but my boyfriend would prefer not to be penetrated at all except orally while i’m down with the whole shebang, so i’m wondering what terms would be used to describe us as a couple?? for the record, he still wants to participate, just not with getting penetrated. would one of us be soft swap and one of us hard swap?? is that how that’d be described?? sorry for the rambling question, i just want to be sure of what to call ourselves so that people know upfront what we’re offering. thank you!!