Hi, I need help with a situation involving a recent experience. My husband and I participated in a couple swap, but it did not go well. The man I was with had erectile dysfunction, so I didn’t have a good time, while my husband and the woman had a great night. What bothers me is not that they had sex, but that my husband knew I didn’t have a good experience and still ignored my feelings.

We met with them three times, and each time I didn’t have any fun, but the three of them did. My husband knew I was upset and unsatisfied, yet he continued without considering my emotions. It is my mistake too that I I didn’t tell him explicitly although he understands my face reactions very well every time I am upset or angry, hungry. It’s not the sex that bothers me, but the feeling of being disrespected in front of the other woman. I have tried talking about it, writing in journals, and other methods, but nothing seems to help. I am now considering talking to a therapist. Please help me understand how to deal with these feelings.

Thank you for reading!!