Hey everyone,

Just curious if anyone here has used "vasectomies only" as a filter or has run into a couple with this filter?

My wife and I have been dabbling in the LS for about a year or two, so far choosing primarily soft swap, MFFM, or clubs for watch/be watched play. We'd like to do more full swap, but our number one worry is pregnancy. She really does not tolerate BC very well, so in our own lives we decided that after having our children I would get a vasectomy. I had the vasectomy done about 4 years ago now and get regularly re-tested to confirm I'm not one of the unlucky few whose vasectomy fails beyond the 1 year mark as we really don't want to grow our family beyond the current size. She's been off BC for years now and has no intent on going back to it. We find ourselves wishing we could just play with others who have that same level of safety built-in.

As we get more comfortable with having other people around in a sexy environment, we definitely want to go to full swap but with her not being on any kind of BC, we just really don't trust condoms pull out. I'm curious to hear what others would have to say about things to consider, their experience with vasectomies in the LS, and just any other general thoughts as we consider where to go from here. We tried full swapping a couple of times with condoms and it was fun in the moment but we ended up feeling quite anxious for the rest of her cycle and we're thinking it may not be worth the stress, but we also don't want to have a boundary that's out of the ordinary to the point of being off-putting...I could see where it might be easier to just say we're a soft swap couple only and live within a framework that's more common in the LS.

Interested in hearing perspectives. Thanks all. Have fun, and be safe!