I've been polyamorous for several years and also interested in swinger spaces. I enjoy casual connections a lot but also value my committed relationships and emotional connections.
I'm currently going through a divorce, so no partner at home. I'm deeply in love with my girlfriend or 2 years, but she is married and not available to escalate towards cohabitation any time soon (though we both see that in a longer term future).
I am interested in entering swinger spaces be that through parties, clubs, etc. I understand these often come with an expectation of bringing a date so the M:F ratio doesn't become too much of a sausage fest.
Would it be frowned upon to come with a friend as my date to a swinger event? We wouldn't even need to have benefits between us, just a mutual interest in attending those events.
Most clubs and events limit single men and most attendees are couples seeking couples or women so its far easier to navigate the scene with a partner.
We wouldn't even need to have benefits between us, just a mutual interest in attending those events.
If you plan to use your girlfriend as a way to gain entry and then operate as a single guy once inside, you won't have much more luck than going solo. You may pay less to get in, but thats the only advantage. You'll be expected to leave together as well. So if she leaves, you leave. You may also be barred from the play are without her escorting you.
Does she want to go to a swinger event so you can get in and then go do your own thing? She'd honestly be better off going alone if she will be flying solo.
TPA is more racially diverse of thats a factor. Both are fun.
TPA is closer to me....but the Korral pool is open at night sometimes and hot tub is nicer so hard choice. My friends prefer korral lately so thats been the decider.
Its kind of unclear who he is bringing.
If its a friend then it's a bad idea. Not really a mess. Just not advised. Its not so dramatic. Really.
Dating someone who won't live with you isn't a mess.
I thought it was a convoluted way of saying they didn't have to fuck each other at the event like he thought that made them more appealing.🤣🤣🤣
I missed where he said it was a friend he doesn't fuck.
Any interest in bringing a date who wants to swing with you?
Hmm. He said his girlfriend isn't available for cohabitation. Which is different than not being available to go to a club. Cohabitation means living together. It is vague. I assumed he was bringing the girlfriend.
For the second time. Its just an ill adviced idea that he now isn't pursuing.
That's not a mess.
What a drama queen.
I think if people need to know your level of committment, they should ask.
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They are a couple. For two years.
Or they could play together as a team and have a good time. This woman has been his girlfriend for two years so she isn't a casual acquaintance to be fair. That was a tiny bit rude.
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He isn't chiming in or discussing actually playing as a team so I'm guessing the anecdote about the girlfriend was a total non-sequitor (really fucking weird) and he plans to bring a random friend.