Whatâs common courtesy in this LS community? Hubby and I went to our first club this past weekend and a group of 3 kinda lurked around us for a while. I could tell they were interested but then they proceeded to ask if we come around a lot. We explained it was our first time and the man made a comment about how it was obvious because I was wearing âa bit more clothing then the rest of usâ this didnât bother me too much, but then it was followed up by a âBUT⌠thatâs okâŚ. If thatâs what youâre comfortable withâŚ.â in a really seriously condescending tone. My husband was uncomfortable by the remarks as well.
I personally enjoy being a mystery or a tease, I wasnât uncomfortable, and I couldâve taken off my top, but after that, I was pretty adamant not to.
Is this type of manipulation a common practice in this community? Everything Iâve heard about these clubs was the opposite of that experience. However, everyone else was super friendly and not weird at all.
I am praying theyâre the rare ones because we really enjoyed ourselves and want to go back but as a SA survivor I donât get down with guilt/crowd manipulation- that was icky.
I'm sorry, how were you manipulated?
I have a sarcastic sense of humor. For people who know me, or are into that sort they humor, they know I'm joking, for people who don't they think I'm being totally serious and not making a joke at times. I've had to learn that not everyone's sarcasm detector is the same and that it can make me seem like a jerk.
He made a dumb comment. Lol. Her clothes stayed on.
Overblown.
Guy sounds like a dumbass.
No one in this story was preyed on.
We have very little experience with clubs, but everyone has always been great. When we say weâre new to the club people are always making sure weâre enjoying ourselves and overall itâs never really been creepy. Hopefully for your sake that was an anomaly and everything is better the next time.
My poor wife had no sarcasm detector when we met, she's had to learn and still it sometimes fails to register.
I think that's an extreme over reaction to an idiotic remark that was a bad joke or just a doofus.
Next time just move on afind someone else to chat with.
You will meet people who's personalities are distasteful to you. Just like in any other venue.
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You should expect to meet people you find "ick" just like tinder or a nightclub.
Its just a club full of people who paid money to be there. You will meet all kinds. If someone is touching you or being gross without your consent have them removed by security.
If someone says something you don't like or holds views or attitudes you don't agree with....just wander off and find better to talk to.