my girlfriend and i (both F, early 20s) just started swinging, we havenāt gone all the way with anybody else yet but weāve been on dating apps and it seems like nobody likes swingers! we are both bisexual and are looking for specifically men who are into both trans and cisgender women. but all the messages we get are calling us āunicorn huntersā and whatnot. i know my relationship and i know this isnāt toxic, we just want to have fun with each other present but everyone else our age isnāt really into it.
So you are approaching people who want traditional 1 on 1 dating for threesomes and you are surprised they are annoyed?
Is this a joke?
You are rude when you approach them. What do you expect. If you go around being rude and disregarding peoples preferences you will get near universal negative reactions. This is, entirely your fault.
Yes. Its hard.
And if you state you want one thing and people approach you for another thing, you'll be annoyed. Thats not stigma.
They clearly they state they are two women seeking a man who is into both cis and trans women so I assume one is a cis woman and one is a trans woman.
How did read this and walk away thinking this was m/f couple seeking a woman for a threesome? This sub is crazy sometimes.
But they are either on the wrong apps or reaching out without regard to others preferences. Or both.
Try using plain language to describe what you want and offer and try matching with people seeking the same things.
I thought your advice for trans women was to go to gay bars for men? So inconsistent.
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You are approaching people who want one thing and offering something totally different.....you need to approach people looking for what you are offering.
Sounds like you are looking for threesomes, not swingers. Are you approaching single people seeking couples for threesomes?