My wife and I are moving very slowly into the life style. We have our reasons and we're happy moving in this direction and at the speed with which we're doing it. We've been to a sex club and enjoyed the vibe and each other.

There are several ppl who've expressed their own interest but have noted their partner's hesitancy so i thought I'd share a recent event they might encourage them.

My wife is gorgeous. Not gorgeous in my eyes blinded by love, she's gorgeous. She never thinks so, though. She doesn't believe me when i tell her about times ppl are checking her out. It's a long story as to why, suffice to say we were both raised in very strict, religious environments and that has a lot to do with it.

Anyway, she had a dr's visit a few days ago. She came home all excited because the doctor was very clearly flustered when he met her and she could finally tell this stranger was attracted to her. I asked her if she found him attractive and she said he was attractive enough to be genuinely flattered by his interest. I asked her if for her follow up visit if she'd dress with more intent and she said she would! She was so happy to finally accept this about herself and i was happy for her! There's a freedom that comes through this that i don't think enough people realize.

This led to some wonderful love making on our part and she is the much closer to moving forward.

So to those people whose partners aren't quite where you are, keep loving them! Keep encouraging them to feel good about themselves! It's ok to go slowly!