And you don’t remotely look younger than your age… sorry.

You know I used to think I hated boob jobs. Then one time on a swingers cruise I met a really wonderful woman, recent playboy model, and my wife joked on a 1-10 she was an 11. One of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. Her breasts were perfect and I was shocked when she made a joke about her breasts being fake. Nothing in how they look or felt would give that away. Turns out it wasn't that I didn't like boob jobs, I didn't like *bad* boob jobs. Talking with her husband on the kind that was done (and the cost) it made sense but I was so used to bolt on or the weirdly shaped ones you see that I assumed that's just how they looked.

The same applies to looking younger. Yes most of the time I hear the claim I roll my eyes, especially when someone here says "I'm 57 but look much younger" in their recently single male post, but those of us who actually do look younger, get told it constantly in our vanilla lives, etc know we do, we know the couples we attract are younger, and we try to avoid talking about it since ageism is a real thing. Maybe you've never encountered such people, but you wouldn't know them if you did. In my our case, my wife is almost 50 and doesn't even have a single grey hair, not one, my father is almost 80 and looks 60. We both got lucky on the genetics side. Sure when we were in our early 20's we looked like highschool freshmen, but it pays on the flip side. You'd just assume our age though like everyone else does. We don't say we look younger than our ages, we just let you assume our ages.

If a couple puts in their profile, "we look younger than we are" they don't, but when you don't ask, we don't tell.

Being lucky helps! 😉

I wouldn't call it dragging across the coals, just not something we've experienced in our entire time in the lifestyle. It could be the circle or location as well. Most the people we swing with have no desire to be outted so only fans is definitely out of the question

We are opposite. We play together and meet couples at clubs and parties. Meeting couples online was a nightmare. It has been easier for us to match with single women online which from reading this forum is rare.

You are looking in the wrong places. Only know of one couple with a OF personally. The vast majority of people in the LS do not have an OF. The vast majority of people you have met might, but you are not meeting them at bigger lifestyle events or resorts or even local clubs.

If there is any community where this might be true, it would be reddit.