Original: https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/s/woIOE2ijmq

It was a few weeks ago I posted this originally. My first two lifestyle experiences were good but I was utterly confused why no matter how hot the people or the scenarios were my soldier just refused to stand at attention. Second couples husband recommended Viagra/Celias to ease nerves and commenters in my post also interestingly brought up a more jarring but (almost) foolproof solution, Trimix which is a shot you give yourself in your dick. My confidence was taking a hit and there were moments of questioning if maybe this lifestyle just might not be for me. But as one does when such a great thing is on the line I full sent it on acquiring Viagra and Trimix to give both proper tries. The best way to describe the difference between them both is Viagra is like “Hey man you got this, together we’re getting an erection” but Trimix is like “Idgaf what happens in the next ~2 hours you’re having the hardest boner whether you like it or not. It’d be a shame if you got called in to work or something.. 😈”

I tested 6 units of Trimix at home with my wife and for science I literally tried to avoid any and all arousing thoughts to “simulate” anxiety lmao. Yeah no it wasn’t having it, 2 and a half hours of unwavering wood. Promising!

We meet with our third couple and I ended up using what I THOUGHT was 10 units of Trimix at the time. I had also drank a good amount and taken my vyvanse because I assumed the Trimix would have my back. It worked for about an hour of good sex but with no warning at all kinda just wore off. Bummer but I’ve gotten plenty of experience with this crisis at this point so I switched gears to finishing her again with oral and hand stimulation then ended up just giving her a full body massage while the rest of our party finished up.

Thanks to the comments and insight on the previous thread I had already developed a more healthy mindset for even when things don’t go exactly according to plan. Instead of beating myself up or worrying about being potentially misjudged about it I just adopted the mindset of “Dick work or dick no work - I’m making sure she has a good time. And if she has a good time, I had a good time.”

Fast forward to a week later, I can only assume she must have had a good time because they hit us up for a spontaneous rendezvous at their house at 4am. While I had the new healthy mindset .. I was going into this guns a blazing. Taking no prisoners.. I had my wife hit me with 15 units of Trimix when we were a block away in the car 😂 Was my dick going to explode and fly into orbit? I didn’t know and I was too horny to care. I just knew she was getting properly fucked this go around. Aaaand that’s exactly what happened. My soldier stood strong and persevered the good fight. It was a huge W for my confidence in the lifestyle and I can tell there are less and less nerves with each encounter. Especially seeing the same and the additional comfort that comes with that.

You might be wondering why I said “what I THOUGHT was 10 units of Trimix”.. well we discovered before this last outing that the syringes I’d pre drawn up to 10 and put in the fridge were mysteriously almost empty. We eventually put two and two together and realized the spot I stored them must have been too cold and they were freezing and unfreezing causing the medication end up being expelled over time. Yup you read that right. My refrigerator sabotaged my own dick. Learn from my mistakes. 😂 double check how much is actually in the syringe..

Anyways, the last thread got a lot of engagement and I wasn’t able to really interact or thank everyone but I’m dropping a big thanks to everyone for the recommendations and tools for a healthy mindset.