In this scenario, when he was told we only play with couples, that should have been the end of it.

You may be able to make your profile not viewable by single guys on certain sites. SLS definitely allows you to block single guys.

Yup. Once it was established he was a single guy and she said no, that’s where the proposition should have ended.

In the end, no harm no foul. He went on his way and she had a story to tell, lol

Wife here. It was a brief interaction and late into the night. I was sort of by myself at the bar. The others I’d been playing with were paired up, for the most part. Husband was fooling around with another lady, and the others in our group were doing their thing. I was in a bit of observation mode, just taking it all in for a moment after going down on one of my play partners that night. He had just moved along from the bar area when this single fella asked for his turn. He did it with a smile. Did not force himself upon me. Did not make a scene. It was just awkward and uncomfortable that I had to say NO several times. He basically just kept trying to negotiate, like, hey, I’m smiling, I’m a nice guy, give me head. No?…. A kiss? No?… Ok, well surely we can just hug? No?… And eventually I told him I don’t think I can be any clearer. I’ve said NO. And he just continued to smile like, aw ok, well maybe next time. So there wasn’t any forcing or un consensual touching or groping for others to notice to step in. I’d imagine unless someone was right there (which they weren’t) it would have just looked like we were having a conversation.  

This was at toward the end of the night, so it was getting pretty cleared out. If he started getting ornery then I’m sure I or one of the other people there would have noticed and stepped in, but as it was it was a short, “light” interaction.

As I’ve said in another comment, I don’t want to make it seem like this was a common experience for us. This was our 4th time at Choice and we’ve seen plenty of single men who basically kept to themselves and were perfectly fine. We’re considering this an outlier. I’ve read stories about clubs in other areas where the single guy situation is worse, so we’re counting ourselves lucky that Choice has been as good as it has been.

This was our 4th time at Choice and it’s been great. This one guy was an outlier so far.

Sure thing, buddy.

He was average height, dark hair, had a sort of European accent and a darker skin tone.

Didn’t get a name, but that doesn’t sound like the guy. Darker skin tone, sounded Eastern European, average height.

This David jerk should be reported, if you haven’t done so already.

That is excellent news! Thanks for the fast follow-through on this.

Again, of the handful of times we’ve been to Choice, we’ve never had this kind of experience. The single guys we’ve been aware of have been respectful. It’s great to see that you actively take steps to keep it that way.

That’s a good plan, too.

Well, again, I (the husband) was preoccupied and didn’t see this go down and I wasn’t within earshot. 🤷

Nope. He was very average height, average build, brown (not black) skin tone, black slightly wavy hair, dark eyes, and some sort of European accent I couldn’t place (not Indian, not Spanish, not Italian or French or Russian.) 

This was an aberration. We’ve been to Choice 4 times now, and this is the only time it happened and it was at the end of the night. I’m not looking to disparage Choice. It’s still our go-to and we still like the vibe.

I think clubs that gender balance and allow singles in are looking to accommodate couples who are looking for that dynamic.

I don’t want to make it seem like Choice is like that all the time. There were other single guys the other few times we were there and this was the first time something like this happened with us. In truth, the other single guys we’ve seen there have been perfectly fine.

That said, we were at the Black Dress event. It was a good time.