So a couple we’ve played with (Carl and Lucy) were chatting it up with us a few days after a date we had with them. This was our second time playing with them and my wife and I were very happy since our goal is to have a few couples we regularly play with.

We expressed this to them and they are as eager as we are to continue our relationship, but Lucy said something that confused me. She said “I’m surprised a couple like you wants us in your circle.” Wife and I looked at each other and ask her what she meant. She said that we are very attractive and not the types they normally approach.

For the record Carl has a dad bod and Lucy has a few extra pounds, things they themselves stated they’re a bit self conscious about. But we find them very attractive. (I mean that’s like what I mostly see anyway. She said we were very good looking and assumed we were highly sought after. We are most definately not. She also said most are probably intimidated by us.

We didn’t think that was accurate since we’ve had successful dates but then my wife an I have been talking about it all week. We’ve realized we’ve played with only one couple we first met/spoke to at a club. Every other time we’ve met online first and gone to a hotel and some we’ve played with at the club. But we’ve only been approached once at a club. We’ve also only been approached by two couples online. Is that normal? We’re not counting the single guys, no disrespect, just pointing it out.

Could it be people are intimidated? I think we’re good looking but not enough to think we’re out of someone’s league. We’re confident, we’ve shot our shot and got rejected or had our messages ignored.

Is this really a problem the “Hot” people have in the LS?