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Weāve (30M 26F, 30M writing) gone to a handful of LS resorts / clubs. All of the places weāve gone havenāt admitted single men. This past weekend we went to Secrets in Florida, where they admit 10 single males a day / night, for about $400 with the membership and ticket. We encountered 2.
The first one was in the hot tub. He didnāt interact with us directly, but he did stroke his dick while staring at us and other couples, and kept talking to one couple until they got up and left. Thankfully he finally got up and left but we saw him later still creepily stroking and looking at couples.
The second one was the next day in the pool. He approached us while we were in the pool and introduced himself, we did a bit of small talk and then I said āwell nice to meet youā hoping that would get him to leave. I donāt like being rude to anyone, and LS folks have been so nice that it seems like I should be too, even to single males. He did leave, and then me and my partner were kissing / being touchy about an hour later and he reappeared. We basically had the same conversation again and he was getting closer and closer to my partner (we were both nude, he was not) and we walked away. (I was much ruder this time, I told him he should find a woman to come to places like this with) Hours later he came back a third time, directly to my partner while I was getting drinks, and I said in a raised voice āweāre not interested, leave us aloneā. This didnāt ruin the trip for us at all but was annoying and my partner took a bit to feel comfortable again.
So, after this, I just really feel like single males shouldnāt be admitted to LS clubs / resorts. I know they are a cash cow, but Iād pay a premium (as I did at Desire) so that they arenāt admitted. If a guy canāt find a woman accompany him, why would he do better at the resort / club itself? The only scenario where I imagine it would be ok is if a couple or woman organized in advance for a single man to come, and he must come with them.
Finally, my advice to single men who want to go to LS clubs / resorts: fuck off. Donāt come. Find a woman to come with you.
In our experience, outside of just choosing to be single, there is generally a reason why they are single. This applies to men and women. Men just seem to broadcast that character flaw more. As Iāve said in the past, it ruins it for the good ones and they shouldnāt be punished for the mistakes of others.
I appreciate this measured response. I suppose that advice bit was addressing a lot of the posts I see from single guys asking how to get in the lifestyle.
People keep pointing out how we just had two bad experiences. I donāt buy the ābad applesā argument that this implies. I think men out in the regular world are pretty shitty in general, and while I believe itās perfectly fine for a single man to have sex with a couple (or participate in any male dominant group sex) I think guys who are willing to just show up at a LS club / resort are more likely to be creepy / aggressive / shitty guys. So, thatās where the advice comes from: donāt come, and if you really want to, find an avenue into it other than just showing up.
Yeah maybe. But all other things equal between two clubs / resorts, and one allows single males, Iād opt to go to the one that doesnāt allow them.
Yeah, after the experience we talked and decided we needed to be really up front, but it seems odd to just tell someone āgo awayā after they say hello. Iād prefer if I didnāt have to do it.
Thatās fair, and my partner and I talked about it and said thatās what we should do next time. I still donāt really enjoy being mean to someone.
As far as the gender reversal, Iām sure a single woman doing these things would be more welcomed by everyone. The difference in the cost of entry for single men and single women does seem to reveal most folksā preferences.
Yeah heard, thatās why I ended my post with āsingle males donāt comeā. I will consider a couples only club / resort / night better for that reason and would pay a premium. Trust me, in the future Iāll be telling them to fuck off before they say hi.
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Exactly my point!