I hate dating couples. As least this one didn't end with a crying a woman. They were Canadians, and I don't think I know how to read Canadians, cause I was so befuddled when it happened, and I'm usually quite good at reading a room.
Met this couple on 3Fun, they were a really nice couple. I updated our profile to insist on mandatory kissing/cuddling/flirting so expectations were clear. We spent 2 days flirting via chat, and I was feeling pretty jazzed about meeting them. The hubby (Andy) sent a private message to my hubby (T) asking if he was going to be able to perform. T responded, yeah, I have stuff to make sure that happens (thank you trimix!)
It's a gorgeous house they are renting, they must have money, it's about $1500 for 3 nights, and we would never blow that much on a rental. She's an attorney and he's in sales so I figure they are pretty successful (the only reason I mention this is maybe our not as high status professions as being an attorney was part of the turn off? I don't know). Some people think caring about a profession in the LS is stupid, but it does make an impression on us.
I feel like the conversation is going pretty well. Andy is a bit domineering, which I would never accept in day to day life, but for a weekend fling, eh whatever. He's pretty sweet too. He keeps clearing our plates, keeping our drinks filled and lighting new joints every hour. I'm really digging conversing with Jill, she's really smart and easy to talk to. Doesn't much matter cause I'm not bi, (of course she is, I made it clear from the opening I wasn't and they said that was cool).
After about 3 hours of chatting we get in the pool, and eventually Andy starts playing with my feet. I wasn't really feeling him before, but a guy skillyfully playing with my feet will make me lose my mind everytime, and this definitely was no exception. So all the sudden I'm feeling very into Andy. We start kissing, and I look over to see T and Jill making out too. So I figure its going pretty good for them.
On the kissing with Andy, I'm thinking his technique is quite good, but I am exceedingly distracted by his flavor. He had wings for lunch, and the ranch aftertaste is not at all pleasant. I keep thinking I will become accustomed to it, but it's not happening. If he tastes bad to me, does that mean I taste bad to him? I had just finished a lifesaver, and I can't picture pepp-o-mint and ranch being a great combo.
T is across the pool and tells motions for us to go get the shot. Trimix retrieved and administered, then we reconvene at the table. Prior to going back to the table I tell T I only think its about a 25% chance of us hooking up, I'm really not feeling it. It's a brief conversation. He says cool, he's not really digging it either.
At the table I sit next to T, and Andy and Jen are together. After about 15 minutes of talking Andy says let's finish this drink then you guys can go home. I am flooded with relief and embarrassment. So this is what in person rejection feels like. Oof, harsh. But so relieved. I didn't know how to make a graceful exit. These people were really nice, and I was almost ready to put out instead of hurting their feelings. Whew! And ouch!
So things that went not great
1 - me and T have a really playful relationship where I kinda insult him all the time. It doesn't land with everyone, but we love it. It kinda cracks us up when it doesn't land regardless.
2 - T wasn't hard when Jill grabbed his dick in the pool (pre Trimix) Andy asked about performance up front so this may have been a really big deal for them.
3 - when we were grabbing our trimix from the fridge to leave they very suspiciously asked us what it was, and I think maybe they thought we were shooting up some illegal drugs
4 - Andy loves eating pussy and I told him up front that's not my thing. He was obviously annoyed about it. He was also rubbing my clit in the pool and I told him I don't really get off that way without a vibrator. He was also annoyed about that.
5 - maybe they felt our lack of interest. We had some family text messages we had to respond to, and it was as we were answering those Andy said it was last call.
And who knows what else it was. Maybe they had a completely different list of why we sucked. I'd love to know. Or maybe I'd hate to know.
Do most people spend days post rejection debriefing? Any stories on the weirdest reason you were rejected?
Just to kind of see both sides here….
As far as the insults. I know a lot of couples do that. My wife and I will playfully do that to a degree. But you also have to read the room and it’s not always something you necessarily do in front of others who may not know how to take it.
As far as the advances. I think what they’re referring to is the fingering/oral situation. Not being into oral is odd for sure although everyone is entitled to their preferences. Although it’s something I’ve never really seen and could see the guy kind of taking that as a “not interested.” Then when he tried to make the natural progression from making out to playing with your clit you kinda rebuked him as well. While you may have been totally earnest I can also see him taking that as a “don’t touch me.” And so they may well feel like they were the ones rejected
Did you express to them prior to agreeing to the meeting that these were your limits? Or is there a chance they were hoping for a full swap with few limits?
Because, if this is what happened, then they could easily have become upset. Being Canadian notwithstanding.
They were traveling, presumably on a limited time schedule, and spent the money to get a rental and line up some fuck sessions. If you weren't extremely clear with these limits that you listed in advance, well, then you wasted their time. They wanted you out and gone so they could try to salvage the night with their plan b.
Ignore the hate over the injections. I think the only thing that could be done different there is to give your potential play partners a heads up about it. There's some ignorance over it (myself included), and it requires additional measures, etc. (needles and refrigeration?) So a heads up can only be beneficial.
If you were clear about the limits as you have said, then what I said is now unlikely in my mind. Well, part of it is. They still wanted you gone so they could move on to their plan b, but they probably weren't mad. They just didn't feel a vibe with you guys. You've admitted to be a bit distracted by the dinner taste and the thoughts you were having. So maybe the other couple was picking up that you guys just were feeling it?
By the way, is this why you like getting high when you play? To help get yourself out of your mind and it's thoughts? Genuine question.
Wow. You've just described my wife and I. We should talk.
Reasonable feedback. We put 420 friendly (it's legal in our state) and drinkers in our profile, and we only go out with people that are cool with that. Fucking on THC is lovely. ETOH, eh not so much.
But anyhow, the couple was keeping up with us, and even drinking more than us, so I don't think that was the issue.
I think I'm more of a mouthwash/lifesaver/gum post lunch type...
Viagra okay, injections not cool?
Did you express to them prior to agreeing to the meeting that these were your limits? Or is there a chance they were hoping for a full swap with few limits?
Because, if this is what happened, then they could easily have become upset. Being Canadian notwithstanding.
They were traveling, presumably on a limited time schedule, and spent the money to get a rental and line up some fuck sessions. If you weren't extremely clear with these limits that you listed in advance, well, then you wasted their time. They wanted you out and gone so they could try to salvage the night with their plan b.
Ignore the hate over the injections. I think the only thing that could be done different there is to give your potential play partners a heads up about it. There's some ignorance over it (myself included), and it requires additional measures, etc. (needles and refrigeration?) So a heads up can only be beneficial.
If you were clear about the limits as you have said, then what I said is now unlikely in my mind. Well, part of it is. They still wanted you gone so they could move on to their plan b, but they probably weren't mad. They just didn't feel a vibe with you guys. You've admitted to be a bit distracted by the dinner taste and the thoughts you were having. So maybe the other couple was picking up that you guys just were feeling it?
By the way, is this why you like getting high when you play? To help get yourself out of your mind and it's thoughts? Genuine question.
Wow. You've just described my wife and I. We should talk.
Ignore the hate over the injections. I think the only thing that could be done different there is to give your potential play partners a heads up about it. There's some ignorance over it (myself included), and it requires additional measures, etc. (needles and refrigeration?) So a heads up can only be beneficial.
If you were clear about the limits as you have said, then what I said is now unlikely in my mind. Well, part of it is. They still wanted you gone so they could move on to their plan b, but they probably weren't mad. They just didn't feel a vibe with you guys. You've admitted to be a bit distracted by the dinner taste and the thoughts you were having. So maybe the other couple was picking up that you guys just were feeling it?
By the way, is this why you like getting high when you play? To help get yourself out of your mind and it's thoughts? Genuine question.
Wow. You've just described my wife and I. We should talk.
None of us were drunk. I hate being drunk. I like a low level tipsy. Higher the better on THC, but the craziest thing that makes me wanna do is go to bed.
Sounds like a train wreck of bad energy and miscommunications. Even if it would have happened it sounds like you all weren’t in the same page.
No experience is better than a bad one. Consider this a win truthfully
Interesting. Any specific reason for this. I Wish the pills worked, but viagra and cialis won't fix the adrenaline overload that causes the ED. He literally can't get hard because he's TOO excited. I think it's sweet. I'd thank God for trimix, but that shit isn't real, so thanks science!
Yeah I mean I think that’s a normal flow of sex in general you know? Even so not liking oral I could respect but then to push back when he started touching her… like how else could one take that? Just not worth the awkwardness.
And I should clarify. I don't really tend to narrate. And I think the entirety of this post was narration, so I guess I don't really talk like this.
Actually I do. What's the biggest turn off on it? Perhaps I should adjust.
Wow. You've just described my wife and I. We should talk.
Ignore the hate over the injections. I think the only thing that could be done different there is to give your potential play partners a heads up about it. There's some ignorance over it (myself included), and it requires additional measures, etc. (needles and refrigeration?) So a heads up can only be beneficial.
If you were clear about the limits as you have said, then what I said is now unlikely in my mind. Well, part of it is. They still wanted you gone so they could move on to their plan b, but they probably weren't mad. They just didn't feel a vibe with you guys. You've admitted to be a bit distracted by the dinner taste and the thoughts you were having. So maybe the other couple was picking up that you guys just were feeling it?
By the way, is this why you like getting high when you play? To help get yourself out of your mind and it's thoughts? Genuine question.
Wow. You've just described my wife and I. We should talk.
No hard feelings what so ever. I'm just always curious what people have experienced. I seem to get a lot of hate. This is also kinda my online diary, I'm already forgetting a bunch of stuff we've done. I like to look back:)
Did you express to them prior to agreeing to the meeting that these were your limits? Or is there a chance they were hoping for a full swap with few limits?
Because, if this is what happened, then they could easily have become upset. Being Canadian notwithstanding.
They were traveling, presumably on a limited time schedule, and spent the money to get a rental and line up some fuck sessions. If you weren't extremely clear with these limits that you listed in advance, well, then you wasted their time. They wanted you out and gone so they could try to salvage the night with their plan b.
Ignore the hate over the injections. I think the only thing that could be done different there is to give your potential play partners a heads up about it. There's some ignorance over it (myself included), and it requires additional measures, etc. (needles and refrigeration?) So a heads up can only be beneficial.
If you were clear about the limits as you have said, then what I said is now unlikely in my mind. Well, part of it is. They still wanted you gone so they could move on to their plan b, but they probably weren't mad. They just didn't feel a vibe with you guys. You've admitted to be a bit distracted by the dinner taste and the thoughts you were having. So maybe the other couple was picking up that you guys just were feeling it?
By the way, is this why you like getting high when you play? To help get yourself out of your mind and it's thoughts? Genuine question.
Wow. You've just described my wife and I. We should talk.
I'm sure I would be devastated at the rejection.
In my head I assume everyone's kinda going through the same thing, but I guess I'm just off.
Did you express to them prior to agreeing to the meeting that these were your limits? Or is there a chance they were hoping for a full swap with few limits?
Because, if this is what happened, then they could easily have become upset. Being Canadian notwithstanding.
They were traveling, presumably on a limited time schedule, and spent the money to get a rental and line up some fuck sessions. If you weren't extremely clear with these limits that you listed in advance, well, then you wasted their time. They wanted you out and gone so they could try to salvage the night with their plan b.
Ignore the hate over the injections. I think the only thing that could be done different there is to give your potential play partners a heads up about it. There's some ignorance over it (myself included), and it requires additional measures, etc. (needles and refrigeration?) So a heads up can only be beneficial.
If you were clear about the limits as you have said, then what I said is now unlikely in my mind. Well, part of it is. They still wanted you gone so they could move on to their plan b, but they probably weren't mad. They just didn't feel a vibe with you guys. You've admitted to be a bit distracted by the dinner taste and the thoughts you were having. So maybe the other couple was picking up that you guys just were feeling it?
By the way, is this why you like getting high when you play? To help get yourself out of your mind and it's thoughts? Genuine question.
Wow. You've just described my wife and I. We should talk.
Eh, it's an Itty bitty insulin syringe. Barely feel a Lil prick! One of my guys even likes the sting.
Lol, we've behaved way worse with way better results with us fucking Americans.
Whats kinda funny about the comment if you break it down in parts
1 - we sat around all night - no we spent about 1/3 of it in the pool, and should we incorporate more pacing verses sitting?
2 - we insulted each other - nah, it's my style, T loves it. It's funny be so judgemental on how couples interact. It always makes T laugh. But totally cool, get it that so couples are super uptight on how they want the other couples dynamic, so this third of the comment has some validity, but wouldn't matter, if couples don't like it, I doubt we would make it to a second date.
3 - we rebuffed advances. Embarrassingly not. I wish we had. Kinda respect myself less. But I didn't stop kissing him even though I was freaking out on the taste, (we left the pool to get the shot, so we could move forward) and I mentioned I almost put out because I didn't know how to exit gracefully and didn't want to hurt their feelings.
So only a third of her comment t even kinda related to my post. But I get it. It was a long boring story.
Trolls gotta troll.
From all of your comments you think everyone should swing your way or not at all. You are someone we would never think of clicking with. We love open minded people. Being judgemental, or always thinking you're right, is our biggest turn off.
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In my head I assume everyone's kinda going through the same thing, but I guess I'm just off.