This reddit group seems to be mostly kissing/cuddling friendly, which is awesome. The last couple we were with, was absolutely not.
After the first couple of minutes of initmate, awesome kissing sex, the other wife left the Jacuzzi, (of course with her husband following her as he should have) and they came back and were with each other, not us.
Fine. Couple hours later we are in the living room watching TV and start the action again. He's fucking her doggy style on the couch for a few minutes, then she whispers something to him, and he asks if I want him to fuck me like that. I usually like doggy, and I'm pretty agreeable anyhow, and glad she's trying to get comfortable, so I say sure, and the 4 of us swap out and go at it like that to completion.
Next time we are together we have a heart to heart about what's happening in her head, because she keeps getting more uncomfortable, and we are touching and flirting with them way less. It's almost feeling like a totally vanilla relationship. At this point we had spent like 4 full days and nights with them.
I'm explaining that I prefer sensual sex, and not being pounded. I need to be kissed and caressed to get in the mood. She fucks like a porn star (which is way sexier, I wish that was my style, but I don't even kinda like it). She says that she's okay with her husband fucking other women, but only certain things. She tells me im allowed to fuck him doggy style and suck his dick.
I don't really see where the fun would be for me in that.
BTW - We ended thing with them, this level of stress got to be no fun.
What are the most restrictive boundaries you have/or have come across?
Sex should not be so stressful! How are you supposed to have any fun?
Find couples with minimum limits the less rules the better. Ours are pretty simple no pain no anal we don’t play separate.
We used to be SUPER tight on our boundaries. Girls can play together, guys can play with their respective girls, but that's it. Even as we moved along, we went to touching/hand stuff okay, but not oral. Then oral, but no kissing, etc etc.
We totally understand people that didn't want those restrictions, but our thing was that we ALWAYS communicated our boundaries up front so it got all of that out of the way. We still had a great time and had some people tell us that soft swapping with us was even hotter than hard swapping.
That said, we've eliminated most of those boundaries now, but we still have a few, and we still make sure to communicate all of that up front so as to not waste anyone's time.
Sex should not be so stressful! How are you supposed to have any fun?
Find couples with minimum limits the less rules the better. Ours are pretty simple no pain no anal we don’t play separate.
I'm confused. I'm the wife. I'm 100% straight, it's a problem. I wish I was bi. I was absolutely smitten with husband's rock hard pecks and huge arms. First husband I couldn't wait to have hold me. I had no interest in the wife. I don't think wives (or at least this one) seem to like having other wives desire their husband's. I guess men find that a turn on, but most women seem to find it disrespectful or something. I LOVE it when a woman wants my husband, I think k that's super hot. But I seem to be alone on an island on that from what I've found in the swinging world so far.
We met them at a masquerade, then spent a weekend at their house, then another night a week later, then another weekend a couple of weekends later. I didn't have sex the first weekend because I was on my period, but she hooked up with my husband with a couple of threesomes (it was cool, she asked if that was fine before doing it).
The first weekend I hadn't hooked up with her husband, and that is what seems to have caused the discomfort. I didn't touch him much until the third night, and then it was about two weeks until we saw each other in person again, but we had been group chatting lots on our phones.
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Sex should not be so stressful! How are you supposed to have any fun?
Find couples with minimum limits the less rules the better. Ours are pretty simple no pain no anal we don’t play separate.