Shockingly so. One kid shrugged it off as no big deal, the other was, 'Ew, you guys have sex still?', and the third just wanted assurance that we are still good with each other.

Overall, a lot less of a response/reaction that I would have had if I had learned that of my parents when I was in my 20s.

Your precautions should serve you well. I'm like you and have clear boundaries with our kids. My wife, not so much. Which is good, but this is the consequence, as we now know.

This was our exact comment. That it was going to happen, we just were hoping it wouldn't so soon. And yes, that's all the kids wanted to know, that mom and dad aren't splitting up.

I can see value in all of this. Maybe more will choose this route the more normalized this all becomes and the less judgmental society is about ENM.

We've been grabbing hotels on the weekends long before we entered the lifestyle. So that wasn't an issue. We did, however, have some explaining to do when one weekend when we had said we were at one place, but our location showed another place.

Agreed. I'm thinking if you suspect it, then it's likely they know. And, with time, they'll realize it's all good and that it can be quite positive even.

Until yesterday, we thought that this was us too. 🤣 I'm now remembering that it was just a couple months ago when our oldest was explaining to us what upside down pineapples meant.... we just feigned intrigue.

Agreed. This could have been a lot worse.

It made more sense when the kids were older and didn't have their own phones. She used to let the kids play games on her phone. But now, there's no excuse. Even for taking a picture. They can take one on their phone and send it.

Good luck!

Yes, I can see how a few things will be easier. I'm sure we'll all be laughing about it in the ensuing years.

It wasn't snooping per se. Due to them traveling together and in constant close proximity, they just oversaw a couple of messages come in on my wife's phone. But yes, maybe they'll think twice next time there's a temptation to peek.

We agree and remind each other of this often. It's just easier to navigate the LS without having to explain or wonder what people are thinking as there's so much judgment and misinformation out there regarding the ENM.

Some people can live this way with it being open to everyone. We aren't there yet.

This is more my style, too. I'm totally fine with them knowing, but you better not be asking for details or you'll regret it. Haha.

I bet he actually hoped to turn the cards around for once. "Why are you late? We sait 2 o'clock."

That's what I would have done, and I hardly suspect our kids will do at one point.