I had a great response from my questions/rant last night and I appreciate most of the comments, but it's left me with more questions.

I believed that couples in relationship discussed swinging to livern up the sex, to spice up the routine and to feel excited about sex again. To try something new of learn something new. To experience.

What I hear in the comments is you need to be having the most 'amazing sex with your partner before you consider joining the LS'.

If I have doubt about my sexual prowes 'I shouldnt involve myself or my wife within the LS'.

We should not get involved in LS until '100% certain that I won't regret letting another man have sex with my wife" How can we know until we try?

If my wife likes the idea but not completely sold we 'shouldn't try LS until 100% sure' How many people are 100% sure on anything before they try it?

If I want another man to fuck her better and harder can I could, I should work on myself before dipping into LS.

If I'd like to watch her having a great time with another I should 'consider Hotwifing instead'

I must believe that no man can fuck my wife better than me otherwise I must be into Cuckolding without realising it' and we 'need to seek a sex therapist'.

If my wife says that I'm average at sex but her ex was amazing in bed, she's called a bad person or words to that effect. If she doesn't tell me of leaves thing vague the advice is 'better communication'.

I shouldn't get involved in LS if I have premature ejaculation because I'll 'disappoint the lady'

I don't get ED myself but have read comments about it that always come from an understanding ( it happens, we work around it) perspective. Why is PE taken as a NO NO when it's really the same thing (going soft) but with more chance of getting hard again and going longer.