Bare with me. I am very very interested in starting a relationship with a guy who was previously married and living rhe lifestyle with his ex and may potentially be active still? Not entirely sure. I have never explores the lifestyle and really didn't know much about it until meeting him. It is not really something he is willing to not have in his life so Our hold up is if I would be okay with it. I truly don't know. I grew up, pretty vanilla but through some phases of my life have opened up a bit more sexually and have found myself to be a more sexual person. Still a bit shy with a little anxiety sprinkled in. I know I won't KNOW until I know. But how could I go about testing the waters without risking his feelings? Has anyone else had similar experiences? How did the beginning of your relationship go? I think part of my issue is I'm not at all into other women, so I can't imagine wanting to play with them either.... don't even know if that's ever expected? Seriously, I know almost nothing. Also, I guess, can women go to the clubs solo and just get a feel for things? Would it likely be too overwhelming to try? I'll take any advice, tips, stories, warnings or just details on how this "typically" goes.

I should say it's not just to win him over. It's truly because it's part of who he is and I feel very strongly about him, so I would like to see if I can support and enjoy supporting that side of Him. I'm not turned off by the idea. Just don't know what to expect, worried about my jealousy, a new relationship and how to get through my anxiety about something so new.