This post is long and dull. Really written for me to remember wtf happened with these peeps if we run into them again.

We met this amazing couple on April 20th at a masquerade. I'm not great at chatting people up, I'm more of an introvert, so I was thrilled when this 6' 5 " mountain of a man, made of all pecks, and his 4' 11" tall beautiful wife came over to talk to us. Even more magical is that they could hold an amazing conversation, both are very well-educated with interesting careers, and me and her both worked in the behavioral health field, which is an instant bond. I also loved it that she didn't flirt with me at all, I'm not bi, and it seems like whenever we go out to events, the whole time is spent having women flirt with me. I'm really only there for the men. I'm all for having a conversation with the women, but I don't think most swinging bi women don't want to do anything with a straight chick, messing around with their hubbies and I swear they are all bi.

Rick is a pilot, and he had to leave early for a flight the next morning. So we said our goodbyes after talking for about 2 hours. We are thrilled about having met them. After we left, we made plans to go hang out with them at their home that is 2 hours away from us the following weekend. Since it's a bit of commute we plan to spend friday and saturday night both there.

As fate has it I started my period right before we were going to meet up with them. So I didn't wanna do any full swap stuff, just kinda messy for 1st time hook ups. The reason this comes into play is we wound up doing some other stuff and I was limited. Friday night was a blast. Me and ray both gave the boys double blowjobs and hand jobs. Then we watched Rick and Ray fucking the living room and then I went and screwed around with T in the bedroom. Ray is a definite exhibitionist, but I am not. I actually really don't like being watched. It makes me really uncomfortable. On Saturday night, after an awesome day of hanging out in their pool and great conversations, we got to messing around again. As I was still out of commission. Rae had MFM with T and Rick, including a double penetration comma which is something T has always wanted to try, but I won't do because I despise anal.

I was super happy with the way everything was going, especially that T got to be involved in a threesome without me, so far, all of our MFM's have been with me him and another single guy. It was nice to get to see him being the center of attention for once and I was thrilled, he finally got his DP experience, he absolutely loved it.

We made plans to meet up again the next week, just for an overnight thing because we were all too busy to hang out for more. Since the night we met we had been texting on a daily basis, and quite a lot of texting. Texting isn't really my thing, I kinda hate it, it stresses me out, but I'm super into this couple so it was actually pretty exciting to be getting text messages from them and knowing they were thinking of us. Rae had been worried about having the MFM with my husband without me. Several times she mentioned she wouldnt have been comfortable with Rick doing that without her in the mix. So she kept putting things on the group thread about really looking forward to watching me with her husband on Friday. She was sending messages like that about 3 times a day. I really hate being watched and it was getting uncomfortable for me to the point that I was starting to not want to go there, so I figured I should let her know that wasn't going to be my thing. So I sent a message explaining I really am not an exhibitionist and being watched makes me feel really uncomfortable. She responded graciously, and was very firm that she would not be in for a separate room swap. I am not a fan of same room swaps, they have not gone good for us so far, but that was a boundary I am totally able to work with, it definitely wasn't a deal breaker.

Friday night games begin pretty quickly and we go into the jacuzzi to start messing around. The plan had been to get warmed up in the Jacuzzi, and then move into their bedroom, sex underwater really isn't for everybody, which I totally get, however, I was feeling supercomfortable in the Jacuzzi. We were all naked. Rick had positioned his cock right underneath me, and I did just kind of slide on to it. I didn't think it was an issue, but about 3 minutes into me kissing and riding him. Ray got up and left the Jacuzzi, with T following her inside. Before T followed her inside, I asked him if anything was wrong or if she was just going inside for drinks or something. T said she was fine. She just had to go grab something. So me and Rick continued but just for a couple moments because T came back out and said Rae wanted to speak to Rick inside.

When Rick left, I asked T if Rae was upset and he said yes, she said she was having a hard time. So I wasn't surprised when they came back out and she stayed with Rick, and me and T stayed together. We went back inside and hung out for about an hour with some drinks and casual conversation. Rae said the kissing was just too much for her. She couldn't handle it, and she kept apologizing. We reassured her, it was totally fine. Everybody is free to have feelings. She kept saying she felt like a hypocrite because she was able to fuck my husband, but was having difficulty watching me with hers. After after a bit, Rick and Rae started making out in front of us. And then started fucking on the sofa.

She's an exhibitionist so I hung around to watch. They really are a good looking couple but watching really is not really my scene, but I'm trying to figure out what to do to break the ice. About 5 minutes in it Rae whispers something to Rick and he comes over and asks me "Are you okay with being fucked like this?" which is face down doggy style on the sofa. I totally am, so we swap out and Rick fucks me T fucks Rachel. We have a great time. And that's the end of the night. We hang out. Watch a bit of a movie and then go to bed. It was a really great night, but I was a little bit agitated that anything I would have wanted and mentioned I wanted definitely been vetoed and made Ray uncomfortable. But I really like this couple. So we're working with them. And I know it takes people a minute to get into the swing of things so it's all good.

We just hung out with them again. Last weekend for the whole weekend, and it was really fucking awesome. I love hanging out with these people. The conversations are stimulating and philosophical and they have very different viewpoints than a lot of ours, but they're able to discuss them reasonably and give us things to think about which is exactly what I would hope to find and people I am hanging out with. Friday night we go out late and have a blast. I'm an early to bed early to rise kinda girl, so midnight rolls around and I can hardly keep my eyes open. I don't really know what the plans are when we get back to the house, but we're hanging out on the sofa. Rick and Rae come out naked and start fucking in front of us again. Which once again is cool, and they really are a beautiful couple. I'm tired, and always a little high on marijuana, so I don't jump in, and they don't motion for us too anyhow so we're just sitting back on the couch, watching them until they're done and everybody hugs good night.

Saturday, I have a talk with Rae and ask her what's going on with this situation. I ask her if the problem is that she's not interested in T, or if the problem is that she doesn't want to see Rick with another woman. We have a talk for about an hour and it's a really good conversation period she talks about a lot of her insecurities, And it's been a constant theme throughout our conversations. We're always talking about other women trying to steal Rick from her. This has always been tricky for me to listen to, because I think when it comes to these kind of relationships you have to trust your partner and not worry about what other people's motives are. Of course if somebody is giving you the heebie jeebies you don't want to hang out with them anymore and everybody should be able to cancel things. But she's mentioned about 5 different people. And in every scenario she's convinced the woman is trying to steal Rick.

I'm not stupid and blind. So I'm realizing that this is likely going to be a problem with her in her interactions with us. She's got a lot of different scenarios, including when a stripper came back to their room and she felt like the stripper that they were paying for sex was trying to take Rick from her. She had many stories about women, giving Rick the eye as they're walking around and how much it upset her and how she would stare them down and she felt like it was disrespectful when women are looking at her man. I come at it from a different angle. I actually think it's hot when women are attracted to my husband and I take it as a compliment period I know T is not looking at anybody unless I give him the thumbs up.

It's a little difficult taking this information in from her and seeing how jealous she isof Rick. I don't really understand why she is in the lifestyle when every experience they have his ended with her blowing up at people, blocking them, and saying, they were trying to steal her man. If that's the way things kept going for us. I would have no interest in being in the lifestyle.

The conversation ends with her saying she doesn't mind Rick fucking another woman doggie style and getting blowjobs from another woman, and me responding I'm not really interested and getting fucked and giving head, that's not what i'm here for, I need a more sensual experience.

The evening rolls around and it's been a really great day, a really great weekend, I've enjoyed all the time we've spent together. We're in the Jacuzzi and again I can tell ray doesn't want to be separated from Rick, and that's fine. Earlier in our discussion. I had told Rae if she wanted to mess around with T without me being messing around with Rick that was totally fine. She said, that was definitely something she'd be interested in but she didn't want to have to share Rick if I was sharing T. I am totally good with that. So T goes and starts kissing the back of her neck while she is sitting on rick's lap and kissing him. It seems to be going okay, But then T asks her are you liking this and she kind of snapped at him, which kinda annoyed me but I know it's tricky to navigate reactions in the moment. Me and t watch them for a few minutes, and then we start messing around with each other period we actually had a really beautiful experience in the Jacuzzi with other, it was nice, it's the only type of foursome I've ever done but it was pretty much all playing with our own partner other than some hand action from the other partners. It reaffirmed Rae really doesn't want me messing with Rick.

After everyone had finished, we went back inside to hang out on the couch period I was lying down on one end, and Rick went and sat on the other end of the couch and started playing with my feet, which is my favorite thing in the entire world. I felt like it might have been making her a bit uncomfortable, But at that point I was thinking fuck it. I'm about ready to check out if I'm not even allowed to have my feet massaged by this couple we were expecting to be swinging with.

Rae went outside with T for a little bit, but was staring at us through the window the entire time. I felt really uncomfortable, and really upset about feeling uncomfortable. Everything was going backwards and I understand respecting people's comfort levels, but we're busy people with too many friends to be able to give enough of our time to, and I didn't get into this looking for more friends, we got into this looking for people to play with. I thought we had found a great couple, and she is just wildly angry about her husband playing with anybody else, even just touching their feet.

We texted for the next few days. Im starting to get annoyed at the messgaes. Rae is starting to get homophobic about the bromance T and Rick have going on, and wont even respond to T when hes trying to flirt with her. Its actaully kinda humilating for him. I dont like seeing my hubby treated like that. Im getting sick of this dynamic and all of us having to cater to Rae's crazy feelings that everyone is out to steal her husband. By Wednesday I was too in my head, and trying to decide what I even wanted to do with this couple. We started off with a threesome, and now we had digress to the point where I can't even lay on the sofa with the guy without her being triggered. So T decided to send a message to Rick, that's on my previous post. Then the couple unceremoniously blocked us with no notification on if they were taking a break or if they just hate us. So that's the end of Rae and Rick.

I don't think I'm going to get as strong of a connection with another couple for a long time, but there was nothing I think we could have done here. Rae's MO is to spiral and freak out at people about trying to steal her husband, and I got tired of trying to soothe her. It sucks we didn't get to get closer, but fuck, she was going to melt down eventually anyhow. Freaking out and blocking people is how she always ends everything. I gotta start screening for end of relationship stories from these couples.