Things have been going backwards with this couple we have been seeing, and I know it's because the wife (who I adore) is an insecure wreck about her husband fucking me. I know every couple has a different dynamic, and I've been trying to respectfully navigate theirs, while maintaining a semblance of what I want.

My hubby sent the following text message to her husband this afternoon, he responded something along the lines of she is just stuck in her feelings, and then tonight we realized we had been blocked on the group chat.

My husband was going for straightforward but politely honest communication in the message he sent to her husband. Please let me know if we came across as rude, I'm reeling about being blocked. Super hurt. I don't understand what was said that was so offensive.

Side note, they are the ones who mentioned being monagonous swingers in a previous conversation, this wasn't something we were pushing, it wasn't even something we had considered before they mentioned it.

Hey D (D is is the other husband), I wanted to get your thoughts on how the dynamic of the 4 of us is going. I know that R (the other wife) has some insecurity that we all are trying to navigate gracefully. I want you to know that you guys are a 10!

We were absolutely not expecting to like you two so much. I, however, am worried it is not going in the right direction. It kinda seems like we are being friend zoned. R doesn't seem to want me to touch her, or you to touch T (me, or as it is his message, his wife). It's fine if she just needs more time, that's not an issue, I would never push that, but T thinks R seems kind of traumatized.

T and I love the time we have with you guys, and R could not be more of a caring host.

As much as you two are our dream couple, I'm worried that T and I may not be R's.

T and I need to flirt and kiss and joke and get that back in return. I try to flirt with R on the chat, and its radio silence. I feel that T and I are so worried that we will say or do something to upset R. We would LOVE to find a solution. I don't know how to get across that T does not want to steal you from her, and frankly, kinda hurtful that she thinks that she would leave me, for you or anyone. It seems like all of your experiences with other people end with R being convinced that the woman is trying to take you from her, including women you are paying. As sexy as a man as you are, I think she might be reading too much into the other women.

We didn't see ourselves as being in a monagonous relationship with anyone, but we could totally work towards that with you guys. We were not looking for that before you sat in front of us, but we can see how amazing that would be. Right now this is kinda hard for us, because we keep liking you guys more when we spend time with you, but it feels like R is getting less comfortable.

Do you guys need a break from us to figure out what you are needing? We will still be here, we aren't looking to go mono with anyone else.

And I loved the time we spent together Saturday night, it was one of the most special experiences me and T have had in the LS. I don't want you to think this is about physical stuff. It's the mental stuff I am worried about"

Please let me know what would have triggered a block in this message. Fuck this hurts.