Just got back from a LS cruise. In general it was awesome. We played a couple of times but also connected as a couple in a deeper way than I was expecting.
As context, we are somewhat new to the LS. Iāve been to clubs and played with couples as a solo male. She and I have also been to clubs together but this was our first LS cruise.
Weāre a mid 40s couple. Generally fit and I think good looking but thatās in the eye of the beholder.
Some questions we had from this experience:
1) It felt like we were in the minority on this cruise in terms of age bands. There were more younger hot couples than our age group but we didnāt want to be someoneās MILFS/DILFS. There were way more older couples than our age group, Iād say 55 . In particular the older couples seemed more clicky and played with people they knew from previous cruises. Is this common in general and specifically on the cruise scene?
2) There were many couples that had what Iād call a significant gap in attractiveness. This was almost always an older, overweight guy with a beautiful younger woman. When the guy wasnāt overweight he just wasnāt attractive (more below). Possibly a ārent a dateā situation but many of the women had rocks on their fingers and stories about how they met so they felt like real couples. Iām what I would call mildly bi. I can appreciate a good looking man and there are scenarios where I would happily play with a guy and my wife at the same time if there was good chemistry and attraction. At no point on this trip did I feel like any of the men were up to my standards in these age gap couples. I told my wife several times āsheās hot and Iād love to play with her but donāt take one for the teamā. Is this a common sentiment or do couples normally look past this for one partners pleasure? Is this just a cruise thing or is it also prevalent in the LS in general? We donāt have enough experience to calibrate.
This has been our experience. The women are often far more attractive than the male half. I stopped taking one for the team very early on. We have yet to go on a cruise.
Would you go on another swinger cruise in the future?
Who cares? It was her preference not to play with a younger couple. Iām not going to second guess what she wants especially as she starts to venture into the LS.
You have completely mischaracterized everything I posted. I said my cruise was āawesomeā. You implied āso-soā and āunderwhelmedā using your own imagination which is odd and radically inaccurate so thatās a weird take. What even makes you think we were on the same cruise?
We played with older couples. We connected with couples across all age groups. My OP was asking for some feedback not judging anything.
As to why I ājumpedā to some women being hired companions, that was informed by 5 couples we talked to on the cruise all of whom were on at least their third cruise and had seen the same guy with different āwivesā. I really donāt care one way or another but if you think it isnāt happening youāre naive.
Appreciate this and we did talk a lot about it before hand. What I didnāt do on this trip was tell her that I really was attracted to a younger couple. She has said she didnāt want to do that but I did not say that I did. Lesson learned.
Which cruise did you guys go on?
I think we did a good of this. We made lots of friends that we had no interest in playing with. One of the best parts of being on this cruise was that almost everyone was super chill. We all shared a dirty little secret and bonded around that. I was super attracted to the woman in a couple we liked. They were 15 yrs older but I gladly would have played with her. He on the other hand was not attractive so it was clear it wasnāt going to happen between us as couples. Not a big deal. We got along great and I hope we keep in touch.
Yes. The disparity was immense. We asked other couples we met about it and they generally agreed that it was a ārent a dateā situation. What those couples do, canāt say. When you see an absolute smoke show with a 60 year old guy on a cruise with a high price of entry, itās not difficult to see that guy paying for her to tag along.
Why does acceptance need to equate to attraction? We had no judgement about the people on the cruise. In fact, most everyone we met was fantastic and we really enjoyed almost all of our interactions. Not sure why that needs to translate into attraction.
I probably should have been more clear in my post. We donāt have an issue with age gap. What we did have an issue with was the older guy being far less attractive (weight, looks, etc.) than the woman. We donāt really care if heās 55 and sheās 30. What we do care about is if heās significantly less attractive than her and that was almost always the case on this cruise
Lol!! Iām definitely using this terminology moving forward
Well, we had a great time and played plenty of times so donāt let my post come off as negative. But, if youāre looking to play with couples in their 40s based on one data point Iād say a LS cruise probably isnāt the way to go. No regrets though. I got naked when I wanted to and we both had fun.
Thatās a great question and I donāt know the answer to be honest. Probably. I donāt look to play with men and she initiates with women so if she goes sheās ok with the couple. I guess I do evaluate the men and donāt tell her Iām interested in a couple if I see a big disparity but if she initiates Iāll follow regardless of a disparity
This has been our experience. The women are often far more attractive than the male half. I stopped taking one for the team very early on. We have yet to go on a cruise.
Would you go on another swinger cruise in the future?
Which cruise did you guys go on?
The post was seeking information really. Sounds like it is common and if weāre picky thatās going to limit choices. Weāre totally ok with that.
Did you read anything I posted? I said there were more younger couples than us. Not that there were many of them. 10 younger couples vs 5 middle age couples isnāt āmanyā younger couples. The vast majority of couples were older than us we were just in the minority age wise.
Did I say that the only way for a heavy guy to have a good looking woman was to pay for her? No I did not. That said there were clearly paid companions on this trip (I donāt really care) as Iāve elaborated on other comments.
Mentioned this in another comment but itās not the age gap that I have an issue with. That really doesnāt factor into it for me. What did stand out was that usually when there was an age gap, he was decidedly unattractive.
I thought my OP was pretty clear but apologies if it was not. Definitely donāt think it was a shitty tone bit to each their own
I thought I would fall into the category of the guy looking for one thing but I quickly learned that I actually need some sort of connection to be into a woman. The slutty woman with big boobs is fun to look at but when she has no personality, is a terrible kisser and doesnāt give any queues into what she likes that turned out to be a big turn off for me. I wasnāt expecting that on my end but it was real so maybe even the dumb penis owners like myself need a bit more of a connection
I never said we had trouble matching. We didnāt. I was asking about other peopleās experiences on cruises.
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Which cruise did you guys go on?