So wife has had a steady FWB for about 6 months. He is single but looking for a LTR. They have become really close friends and they text throughout the day every day. They would typically meet twice a week, a 50/50 mix of vanilla night out and a separate meet for adult fun at his place.

So he recently met a girl who has gotten serious very fast and they are moving in together. Met with my wife last night to explain it all to her.

She is happy for him but thinks he's moving too fast. He said they can still be friends but no more sex.

She came home very upset. Crying and said she couldn't explain why. We tried to talk through it and I tried to make my point that he is still going to be a vanilla friend and losing the sex shouldn't upset her this bad. She disagrees and says this is a normal reaction and she isn't crying just because she's losing the sex. She doesn't like the idea that she won't be the first person he texts in the morning anymore. (That one hurt)

We have talked in the past about how she easily gets emotionally attached. She is just a sweetheart and although I know she loves me 100% and our 30 year marriage is solid as a rock, it's hard to see her crying uncontrollably over this.

We argued about looking for a other FWB. I feel like she gets too emotionally attached and I suggested what I see folks say on here....3 meets and then move on. But she can't/won't do that...she needs the connection before the sex. We're also very picky and had a hard time finding a respectful man that wasn't flaky or playing the field. So I know it's hard out there. So many A-Holes and fakes and flakes....(we've tried them all....SLS, SDC, FEELD, 3FUN,..... Reddit (the worst)).

It hurts to see her crying over this. My FWB situation is very different. We are very close when we meet once a week but send maybe 4 or 5 texts a WEEK. Which I feel keeps the relationship in a good place. I mentally split the emotions and feelings of the marriage relationship and the FWB relationship and if my FWB did a similar thing I would be disappointed but I'd understand, focus on the fun memories and of course be a little sad it was going away but like I tell my wife, I feel like that HAS to be the mentality/nature of this situation....it could go away at any minute for any reason.

Would love to get the female perspective on this.