I've been having a hard time with any of this.

Me 22m and my wife 32F just started the lifestyle but have not tried anything yet we have been in a NSFW chat so we've seen people we've hung out with naked that have done the lifestyle for quite sometime. The problem I'm having is my wife is wanting to take it very slow and because we're moving away in a week to a new state and thats when she wants to start to find someone to join us...im having problems being jealous because one of our single guys have done both the women i wanted to share with my wife...I know i dont own them or anything but its so hard having to start this fresh. I have very bad impatience when it comes to stuff like this and the military doesn't make it any better on my impatience mindset since they're a get it done now mindset. I've left the chats and avoided all confrontation with the women that have made me this way but i feel bad for doing it even though they said its fine. I've talked to my wife about it and she understands my feelings. I just want advice in how to have patience and not feel jealous in this type of lifestyle like i believe once i do it I won't have these feelings anymore but on the other hand i feel like I would want it more if i did it too early.