Hey all,

I’m fairly new to the lifestyle, and very new to the lifestyle as the dreaded status of being m recently single male. I like playing with groups, and I think I’ve done ok so far. (I consider myself polite, good natured, articulate, and funny)

However I’ve noticed that some “couples” I’ve interacted with lately, both here on Reddit and on Feeld, as possibly being something different than what they are claiming to be.

Just a couple weeks ago, a couple reached out to me for a potential play date. After some messaging back and forth we decide to video chat to verify….Turns out the “couple” as far as I know was just a guy… the woman had NO IDEA that her partner was trying to setup a MFM 3-way, let alone with a stranger they met on social media. It felt super weird, dishonest, and a little…desperate?

This also just happened again, this time just the same as the last. Whenever we decided to video chat to verify, I ask if both people were available, as I don’t want to waste my time with pic collectors, catfisherman, etc…and would like to have a conversation with the woman I potentially may be penetrating before moving forward…Yet again, the man responds with something about how she’s not around, and gets defensive when asked about their partners involvement.

This all just seems weird AF to me…like there maybe is no other person, it’s just a pic collecting thing, or it’s just a male dominated fantasy where the other half doesn’t really even know what’s going on. Definitely weird vibes!

Is it really that hard to communicate with all people involved, especially with something as intimate as fucking?