https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexual/s/LH33Ty0vxi

Here is the original post. As I mentioned in that post, against my better judgment I told my husband he could go ahead and book for 2024. As the date for the final payment was approaching, we had a lot of discussions about what transpired and how I felt. I had been dreading going back there and was low key stressed about it since our return.

I made it very clear that I didn’t want to go, and if he insisted I would immediately 1) make using my still unused hall pass my top priority, 2) no MMFs for the foreseeable future, only MFM’s, 3) my hall pass wouldn’t just be for clubs and takeovers, I’d use it for private 1 on 1’s, and 4) depending on how the trip went afterwards I would have a unilateral hall pass for a minimum of one year. In short, I’d be out getting all the action I could, without him, while he’d be at home on a short and tight leash. Needless to say he didn’t like that. So he agreed we could cancel the trip. We’ve already gotten our refund less $250 cancel fees. I offered to pay the cancel fees out of my own money but he said no.

I already feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I now actually like the idea of being married to him and getting back to the mutually enjoyable lifestyle fun we were having before our trip to Bi Week in Hedo.

And for those who criticize his wanting to return and my approach to that, he is someone who can split hairs and argue minutiae until the cows come home. Sometimes I have to bypass all of that and boil it down to “if you do x, then I will do y”.