I’m long winded. I apologize in advance.

We rarely meet with singles but when we do we prefer to keep those encounters even more discrete than we do the rest of our LS experiences (specifically males) and we always explain this to them. We don’t like to advertise ourselves as a couple who plays solo or with singles (we will on the right circumstances but not often).

We met with one guy and enjoyed him. He wasn’t clingy or dominant and we all had a good time. He had a FWB he asked to bring into group chat after our first play date with him and while we haven’t played with her, she and I have turned into good friends. We kept the group chat spicy, once a week/every other week or so we’d all check in and share photos or videos. Things got busy last week with real life and we didn’t check in… but he did, and he sent a bunch of photos and videos and really intense details about another play session he had out of town.

Now, I expect and don’t give a single thought to our play friends having other play friends and am happy he had fun… but discretion is really important to us and we’ve explained that. So for him to share the amount of details and the videos from another couple without any kind of care for their anonymity freaked me out; he may have had permission, but regardless it makes me nervous that you’re willing to share that intensive of information about me if you’re willing to share the same of other people without being asked. His FWB replied and encouraged him/teased him a little about the story he shared in good fun, but my husband and I decided to pass on that interaction, we didn’t have much to say and like I said, life is busy right now. We also decided we might not play with him again (it’s been months since our schedules lined up, and we aren’t really looking for solo guy experiences at this moment anyway) but I think we likely would have kept the group chat open for fun exchanges and kept an open mind to play with them as a “couple”.

I noticed this morning that he silently left the group chat and blocked us sometime over the weekend… and even though we decided not to play with him solo anymore, I can tell we obviously offended him with our lack of engagement on something we weren’t comfortable with the idea of. We didn’t feel like it was appropriate to question the morality of it in front of his FWB, so we just chose to not engage. Are we the assholes? Are we the minority when it comes to the etiquette of sharing photos including other people?