We recently met another couple around our age, and things have been going fairly well over text with plans to meet for drinks tomorrow night.
Today I asked them what their boundaries/agreements/rules are, and we are a little concerned with how strict they are.
The gist is essentially no tongue while kissing, she does not perform oral sex on anyone besides her husband, no “violent” action of any kind (spanking of any kind, choking, etc).
When we were baby swingers we had similar restrictions, but eventually found that they just weren’t very practical and ultimately got in the way of us having good experiences.
Is having overly strict rules a red flag?
So essentially no fun. Why even swing at this point?
People are entitled to set whatever boundaries they want, and we'll respect htem. But we may also take a pass, depending on those boundaries. Here, I assume the no oral sex boundary only applies to her, as you didn't mention a similar one for him. So he can go down on your wife, but you don't get the same treatment (I am assuming OP is the husband-apologies if I have that wrong). We would not play with any couple that does not give equal rteatment. Then the no tongue thing sounds like a rule that could easily be forgotten in the heat of the moment, leading to inadvertantly breaking it.
All of this sounds like the perfect setup for a drama filled evening. No thank you.
We’re out on that one. Rules like that are a jealous partners attempt to control things. Besides, if she’s not sucking cock either am I. (I love doing it)
No experience is better than a bad experience. They would be a no for us.
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