This is such an interesting question and I'm not sure if I'm answering your question or just using it to riff on our experiences here, but hopefully this helps lol. We're still relatively new but I've found that it's similar other friendships/relationships. New is exciting and people who you have good sex with and you're just feeling each other out, you want to see all the time (every week, every other week). But when you get to know them better, maybe the guy is an ass or the girl isn't enthusiastic anymore and they kind of fall to the wayside. Or you're great, they're great, the sex is great, but life gets in the way. We had one couple where we all agreed we'd be each other's Friday. We haven't been able to connect with them after our first play date 🤷🏽‍♂️. We have another couple that we've seen three times in a month because we had so much fun together. Being relatively new at this, I think swinging is a bit like a new toy, though. It seems experienced LSers have experiences less often than we do. Like I said, not sure if that directly answers your question, but hopefully it at least offers some perspective.