First time to a swinger club for my fiancé and me. This will be our first attempt to play in the lifestyle. We have done all the necessary preparations, research on clubs, had numerous discussions, etc. and agreed to our one boundary - - -we will always remain in sight of one another.

My fiancé is worried about a limp dick (anxiety being the issue); I am worried about the having sex with a different man as it has been 10 years (and I have always monogamous) and despite all the encouragement and permissions from my fiancé, I am not sure if I can really do this.

I know both of us can mingle and soak in the atmosphere, but our hope is we both drop our concerns and jump in, get our toes wet, and hopefully explore our limits as we discussed.

Two thoughts I hope others will share:

1. I would love to hear from others who entered a club for the first time and what gave them the courage to make the leap?

2. I would also like to hear how many found their partner going WAY BEYOND their initial expectations to the point of being “surprised” based on knowing how initially hesitant each was through discussions about limits?