My luscious bride (late 30sF) and I (early 40sM) are still pretty new. We went to our first resort over 2 years ago, but weāve been on a slow and comfortable progression. Weāve had two phenomenal MFM experiences thus far. *For reader perspective, we are stag/vixen, both straight.
We met a guy this weekend that is just perfect. We both agreed and broke our āno play on first dateā rule, and every aspect was totally 12/10. He felt the same, and we texted the next day (just him and me) with āomg, we should keep this goingā kind of talk. My wife was saying the same things. Cloud 9 for us all.
We arenāt the type of newbies to have tons of rules. We donāt have many yet, and we have always planned to make them as needed.
I hadnāt expected to find (or even really want) a āregular.ā But heās pretty perfect. The all-around connection was superb.
Iām curious what extra rules you folks have put in place for regulars regarding things like frequency, inviting to the house, solo discussions, etc. Do you have additional rules that you donāt have for single encounters?
I know there is typically more guarding put up against single men, and often for good reasons.
We will never be poly, but we are sensual and require some connection. She is generally more attracted to energy, which this guy totally has but is also a Greek (actually Syrian) god.
TLDR AND MY QUESTION: I guess what Iām getting to here: this isnāt about a phobia or jealousy or anything. Iām just trying to proceed intelligentlyā¦.and Iām wondering what safeguards others have put in place for the single guys they keep around longer-term.
Cheers!
I chat privately with other guys. My husband knows my phone password and go through it at anytime, but he never does. As long as it's just about sex, he thinks it's hot.
I agree. This is what we have been doing. Not as a rule, per sĆ©, but it seems the most appropriate and fits my wifeās and my dynamic. Iād love to hear about your screw up if youād care to share. It fits my theme hereā¦.Im just trying not to screw up.
Is it more of a poly relationship, or have you been ātheir thirdā for that long? I donāt mean that as objectifying you for them. I guess Iām curious how youād describe the relationship. And if it feels like more than good, casual sex?
Much appreciated. We will deal with unreliable. I didnāt want to use buzzwords, but I guess my biggest concern is the opposite: becoming āclingy,ā āattached,ā or whatever else.
I do agree. And maybe Iām overthinkingā¦.but Iāve been wondering what we would consider to be the trigger for that. It would suck to realize youāre at that point without having noticed you were getting there.
Unfortunately, this post was about the same fucker as my recent post. Haha
I do agree. And maybe Iām overthinkingā¦.but Iāve been wondering what we would consider to be the trigger for that. It would suck to realize youāre at that point without having noticed you were getting there.
Much appreciated. We will deal with unreliable. I didnāt want to use buzzwords, but I guess my biggest concern is the opposite: becoming āclingy,ā āattached,ā or whatever else.
I do agree. And maybe Iām overthinkingā¦.but Iāve been wondering what we would consider to be the trigger for that. It would suck to realize youāre at that point without having noticed you were getting there.
I appreciate this. And I feel like we are much the same. Dick size comparison is never on my mind for the same reason. And Iām, too, rarely on the sidelinesā¦.only for short stretches to really capture the view.
The ongoing arrangement was never something we wantedā¦.but it would be hard to turn this one away. And holy shit - how much work it would avoid for setting up playtimes! Cheers!
Much appreciated. We will deal with unreliable. I didnāt want to use buzzwords, but I guess my biggest concern is the opposite: becoming āclingy,ā āattached,ā or whatever else.
I do agree. And maybe Iām overthinkingā¦.but Iāve been wondering what we would consider to be the trigger for that. It would suck to realize youāre at that point without having noticed you were getting there.
Thatās next level. Cheers to all of this! I sincerely appreciate you sharing.
This sounds awesome. It sounds like what I hope I just stumbled intoā¦.and also seems to be a special situation, given all Iāve read. Cheers!
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These are the things that play in the back of my mind.
2nd,3rd this. Highly recommend you learn from the wisdom of others lol. Although, rarities do exist.