Hi Everyone,

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My wife, 47, and I m44, have been entertaining the idea of swinging for the past year. It all started after watching a UK TV show on channel 4 called open house. The TV show invited couples to join other swingers in a big beautiful house and explore their fantasies with a resident sex psychologist.

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About 6 months ago we both went to do a week training course on tantra massage. This was a big thing for both of us because it was the first time that we would both be naked In Front of other people. It was amazing and liberating.

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We have done other Tanta retreats which have been beautiful, some with clothes on and with clothes off.

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So we are at the stage where we have become members of a swingers club but we haven't attended and eventually yet.

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My wife was married previously and had a lot of trauma from that time. We talk about it a lot and we do a lot of processing together and alone.

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Our sex life is amazing, the energy we create is beautiful. We do not have penis in vagina sex at home. It's too painful for her. However when we are away on holiday for weekend or a week we do manage to have penis in vagina sex and it enjoyable and pain free.

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We would like peoples stories, experience and advice on becoming swingers when have previous trauma.

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Thank you.