Hi folks! Wife and I recently had our first experience at a club—and it was amazing. We've discussed doing it again, and I think we would both like to go to clubs or parties once or twice a year.

There's one thing that I could use your advice on. My wife is very pretty (gorgeous, actually), and VERY petite. Like..a hair under 4'11''.

She's also very slim and, depending on what she's wearing could pass for a teenager. Like, we get dirty looks sometimes and whenver we make new friends someone eventually finds a way to ask the "how old are you, again?" question (when did you graduate hs, how did you two meet, etc etc).

She tends to dress in a way that makes her look her age, but...well, while naked, and in a dark room, I have no idea how she will be perceived.

This is something she is insanely self-conscious about, so I don't want to bring it up with her: she's so self conscious that just bringing it up might shut her down for a few months if not longer.

So... I guess my question is:

• Have you played with someone that, under the right (wrong) lighting could look uncomfortably young?
• Any extra-petite swingers out there have any advice on how you handle this?

My goal is for my wife—and everyone around us—to be turned on and feel sexy.

Or am I just overthinking the whole thing?