I know lots of people new to clubs often wonder about the differences in the nights and as beginners who have now visited Colette Dallas once on a Saturday (back in Nov last year) and once this past Friday, I wanted to give our impressions as newbies on the differences of our experiences.

The obvious "on paper" differences between the two nights is on Fridays the upstairs is closed, and single men are allowed in the club. Saturdays upstairs is open, and only single women and couples are allowed.

I know when I was researching sex clubs, many people made the presence of single men sound VERY intimidating.

We have only gone to Colette once before, and we primarily went for the vibe-- we had no expectation to swap; just enjoy the sexy atmosphere, and enjoy the voyourism of watching and being watched-- maybe some parallel play if we really hit it off with another couple, but nothing more.

We went this past Friday because a childcare opportunity opened up to us suddenly that allowed for the chance to go, but only on Friday and not Saturday. We aren't looking for any MFM or other male experiences, so there's no real incentive for us to go on a night that provides opportunity for them, but we wanted to go bad enough that we figured we'd give it a shot anyway.

We arrived around 9:45, about the same time as our Saturday visit, and I would say there were about the same number of people of there at that time, which is to say 10-12 couples. There were the addition of a few single males at this point as well, but the crowd overall felt the same this early in the evening.

We sat downstairs in an open corner of a couch to enjoy our first drink of the evening and started scanning the room. Most of what we could see were couples-- only one single male was in our view. Most of the folks at the club this early tended to be somewhat on the older half of the spectrum, and I would say mostly below-average to average in attractiveness.

The couples started to skew a bit more attractive and younger as the night wore on, but unfortunately the single men didn't. They continued to be, for the most part, older and overweight. Not all UNattractive, IMO, but none that my wife found attractive. No loss for us, as we had no intention of engaging with them, but worth noting nonetheless.

And while I would say the vibe was different between the two nights, it wasn't THAT different. Yes, we had a few single guys stare at us when we fucked in the red room (which I admit does feel different than when women or couples watch), but we had couples watch us too. And while we had a few men compliment my wife on her dancing, all remained respectful, despite often coming off a bit more desperate than they prolly thought. But none touched inappropriately or made any advances on us. They waited to be invited, and behaved in spite of the invite never occurring.

I fully understand that two data points are hardly any data at all, but I am glad we were able to destigmatize Friday nights for ourselves.

Would I say that we overall preferred the vibe and experience on our Saturday visit-- absolutely yes. But if another few months pass and our only opportunity happens to be another Friday night, would we go again? Absolutely yes.

I get that much of this is luck based entirely on who decides to show up on a given night, but so far, I would say our luck was decent and we did our part to make the best night of it we could. We danced when no one else was dancing (which seemed to encourage others to dance), and we fucked in the red room when no one else was fucking. We stayed positive and made the night what we wanted. We fucked three times for nearly an hour each time, and fucking loved every second.

We hope to return again. Hopefully very soon!