I know the old saying... BJ's are like pizza - even the bad ones are good. Sex is pretty much the same way, especially when you have multiple hands (and mouths, and...) involved. But seriously, has anyone had any experiences with bad sex in the LS? I mean, I'm sure it has to happen, but I'd be curious to hear some stories.
We're relatively new and we've had some experiences that weren't great, but normally it wasn't the sex, it was a someone's personality not really meshing with ours. As far as the sex is concerned, I swear, it's almost like every time is better than the one before. Not to toot our own horn, but pretty much without fail, every experience we've had, we talk with the couple after and we all agree how hot it was and what an amazing time everyone had.
Is it because we're still kinda new? Or did we just happen to pick a hobby that pretty much kicks ass every single time lol?
Again, I'd be curious to hear the perspective of anyone that's been in the LS for a while or any stories anyone has.
I feel like every encounter is less than what I am used to getting at home. Sometimes, I question why we keep doing this, I guess I am looking for that one great experience.
So we did have one similar experience. I think part of our success is that we don't really full swap and our focus isn't really even "swapping" at all (we like the puppy pile of 4 - or more - bodies where it's more like dominoes, everyone connected) so we always have each other to fall back on if we're not really feeling it with the other partner. That said, she was playing a guy a few weeks ago and they were into each other, but the girl other girl was just not that into me (hey, it happens!). We're not sure if it was because as the night went on, she just got more drunk (she played very enthusiastically with my wife earlier I the night) or if she just wasn't feeling it with me. She was just kind of there and, like you said, not enthusiastic at all. The night finished just fine, because we did end up going back our own partners and my wife and I had a great time. We're also going to give them one more chance because my wife was really hot for the guy and I'd like to see her enjoy herself with him again, but if the other girl is a dead fish again, we'll be cutting bait.
That does make sense. We love watching and being watched, so when our play partners haven't been completely enthusiastic or have had trouble performing, we always default to each other. Also, even with just one other couple, we enjoy more of a group dynamic or soft swap for the most part, so we really look at the whole thing as one big act of foreplay. I could totally see that if we were more swap focused we'd have a much bigger chance of disappointment.
I love exploring someone else's body and I'd love more regular playmates - giving us all the opportunity to get to know each other's hot spots, etc. But you're right. While the variety is super fun and exciting, no one knows my body like my wife and vice versa.
Yes. I've had bad sex a few times. The good outweighed the bad though!
This is quite the interesting perspective! I had thought about hiring one for her (she is bi) but never for me or us 🤔
I don't know why more guys don't pursue the little blue pill. I heard guys young and old in the LS talk about performance anxiety and how it's a real thing in the LS. I had one experience where my dude down there wasn't in the mood and that was it. I got a prescription the next day and I never play without it now.
To each their own, but I really like to fuck and I wouldn't be satisfied with a soft swap.
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Colostomy bags! Good grief, I hope we never get there 😂