My husband and I have been in the LS for about a year now and we attend a lot of group events as well as make more intimate plans on the side with couples or singles we want to get to know more or obviously, play with. Some of the group events depending on location we are all staying at a hotel and group play sometimes occurs. The group events are more for having some fun time with our existing friend group, but also for meeting new people, we aren't exclusive to anyone and have no desire to be. The problem we have been having is that some couples we've met with on the side assume that every event thereafter we will be spending all or a majority of our time with them and potentially play with them afterwards. Or if we met up with them on a Saturday, they are already trying to be first in line on Monday to make plans with us for the coming Saturday, sometimes borderline pushy. We are at a point where we want to go to group events but get uncomfortable because too many couples expect all of our attention. There's also the guilty feeling when we have to say no to more plans because we have made plans with another couple. During the week we chat with a lot of our LS group members and some of our friends we've met, but there are some who we can't even keep up with chatting with unless we stop talking to anyone else.

Some of the couples we have made connections with all runs in the same circle of friends where we have sort of all swapped with each other, and that has been great and there is no worry there. But some of the couples we've connected with are outside of this or any sort of group, so there is the obligation to make exclusive plans with them. But it is becoming overwhelming, and we are unsure what's the best way to handle this. We have always been transparent about no exclusivity and that we are not committed to anyone, but some people just don't seem to get it.

Have you been confronted with this sort of situation, and if so how did you handle it? We absolutely do like these people but the pushiness and the feeling that some of these couples want to monopolize all of our time is becoming a major turn off to the point we want to break ties with them. Perhaps that might be what is needed but maybe there's a better way so still everyone wins?