Hey there!

My wife and I have been poly for a while. She strictly plays with women (her choice) whereas I have a few people I hook up with on occasion and I would consider friends more than anything.

We’ve recently been talking about swinging. We posted a few ads on /r/swingersr4r but I’m pretty sure 99% of them were scammers or pic collectors. Fair enough, I learned my lesson

From reading through this site, it seems the best option is to go to a swingers club. We’re intrigued by this but my wife is very shy and we both prefer to chat for a while before doing anything sexual.

I guess the other problem is that we live in a pretty sparsely populated place (Saskatoon, Canada) without much opportunity (it seems) for meetups with similar-minded couples.

And to make matters worse, dating apps are not a good option for us as we work in sensitive areas and discretion is important for us.

So my questions: - is it possible to meet people in Western Canada who aren’t creepy and are willing to chat in a group chat before meeting? - would going to a club really be our best option?

I understand that these are a lot of caveats and I feel like success is unlikely for us! I’m curious if anyone has any thoughts or advice for us?

For reference: I am 29 male, 230 lbs, 6’4”; she is 5’5, 130 lbs, indigenous.

Thank you and excited to learn about this community :)