We are a “sex with a side of social” couple. Meaning chemistry and attraction are enough to play. Not a ton of vetting required.

We have made some friends along the way and had repeat play with them.

We like clubs but go to play, not drink all night waiting to play.

We are a “sex with a side of social” couple. Meaning chemistry and attraction are enough to play. Not a ton of vetting required.

We have made some friends along the way and had repeat play with them.

We like clubs but go to play, not drink all night waiting to play.

It can be so difficult to find a "label" that really captures us!

For example, we have one couple that we "date" pretty regularly (all 4 of us together), that I've joked are like "best friends with benefits". We take trips with them and hang out very frequently, but we don't always have sex with them--we just love them in and out of the bedroom! It's almost polyamory, but I do think there are some distinct differences.

Then we have two or three other couples that we see occasionally (often with our usual couple), and sometimes it's just hanging out, and other times it's sex. So this is more poly/swinger-y.

We also go to clubs and parties pretty regularly, so probably more of the straightforward swinger "label".

Then we have several single guys that we see almost exclusively for sex. Now, these are the guys we make most of our content with, but even for years before we ever made any content, we had the exact same arrangement. They come over, we have a drink and catch up for little, then we head upstairs, fuck, and they leave right after. We've spent time with a couple of our regulars outside of the bedroom, but that's been pretty rare. And though we're very upfront about all this, we've had at least a couple guys get pretty offended by this arrangement, whereas most the others seem to like it! So this is more of a stag/vixen arrangement?

I think bottom line is we're a bit of every kind of swinger. 😂

In our dynamic, we have swinger friends and we meet once a month alternating houses for group play. We are also down to go to a club and hook up with people we just met. I think we feel better about hooking up with strangers at a club scene versus out in the wild or with people we met on an app because sex clubs are a place that feels safer with other couples and security around. If we are going to meet someone privately, some kind of connection and vetting has to happen in a public place first and that just takes longer to set up.

We're new, so we're trying everything! We have one couple that we play with regularly - the girls are genuinely friends and text often. We have friends we've met with the plans to play, but schedules get in the way, and our group chats are seeing way more action than our bedrooms. We've played at house parties with people we've just met - some have become repeat play partners, but not really friends. We've hooked up at clubs with randos that we've never seen again... Most often, even if we're hooking up with someone we just met a club or party, we try to exchange info if we're interested in playing again. The main exception has been when we traveled, of course.

We came into this thinking our goal was to find 2-3 couple who live nearby for legit FWB, but so far we've found we have the most fun at group parties where we happen to be playing with new people. The hard part about the FWB thing is finding the 4 way connection. It seems like there's always a disconnect with at least one of the guys and the other girl.