What has being in the LS helped you learn about yourself? About your relationship? How has it changed you or your views?
For me (48m) I have discovered that with the right person anything is possible. My wife (40f) has opened me to a world that I never thought existed. My self confidence is better than it’s ever been. I am more open with my communication in all aspects. I never would have thought it would be a turn on to see my wife take another cock but here we are.
Our relationship was strong already but I feel that it’s unbreakable since we started our adventure. I trust and love my wife in a way that I have never trusted someone before. I find her even more sexy. Communication is excellent and we are always in tune with what the other is thinking or feeling.
As far as views, I used to be very closed minded sexually. I understand more now about why people have the preferences they have and that it’s okay to be open about your sexuality. Own it and don’t let people shame you over it. I’m also more outgoing when it comes to meeting new people. Still an introvert at heart but I can be the life of the party as well.
So what has it done for you, good, bad, or no change at all.
It has made our sex life so so so much better, for me (43f) at least! The only thing my hubby knew about sex was from watching porn, and porn is not a lot of fun for women, or at least I don't enjoy that style of fucking, even remotely.
I didn't know how to explain what I liked or wanted, and we have really just had really vanilla sex our whole marriage, where my focus was on fucking daily, and in just comfortable positions. I literally had no idea the different things that a man could do with my body. Having men experiment and my hubby learn, has been a wild ride.
I am so open and excited about exploring everything now, and I had no idea sex could be like this. It's a whole new world. I'm intoxicated by it!
For me personally, the LS has shown me that I love it when my wife is adored. I also love watching her turn on and please others. It has brought a new and different closeness to our already strong relationship.
All honesty? He had a really rough drive home feeling really insecure with what our sex life has always been. But he really wants to learn. Neither one of us believed, or would have believed, that sex could be anything like that. I repeatedly reassured him I've been with lots of guys, and no one has ever done anything like that. It was wild. It literally made me redefine how I see myself sexuality.
The Dom was happy/eager to show my husband how to please me, and we are looking at this like a master class. Honestly, the world of swinging men is super competitive, and he would love to have this skill down to be able to go into a room full of confidence with a woman. If you can make a woman cum repeatedly with your hands, you don't need to worry about ED or dick size, you can be confident in a way way way better skill set.
I am going to tell you what the profiles said so you know what to look for as clues in your area.
He referred to himself as a "pleasure dom" in his profile on Feeld, and we had no idea what that was, but his pictures made us want to meet up with him. I looked up pleasure doms after our experience, and I guess basically what their kink is, is getting off women repeatedly, I guess it's actually better than sex for them in a fetish sort of sense.
I have a date with another pleasure dom on Saturday, and his profile on 3Fun said he has "a trick" he can do. When I messaged him about it, he said "I can make a girl squirt instantly and on command." I was intrigued by this guy, but I didn't have hugely high hopes about this prior to last week, cause I have never been a huge fan of squirting. It's messy, and I always thought clitorial orgasms feel way more intense. But as I just found out, something happens when you stack the orgasms on top of each other. After the fourth one, I lost my mind. It was more intense than anything I have ever felt. I am hoping this pleasure dom does the same thing the God from last week did!
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I was just with a pleasure dom last week, and he showed my hubby how to get his ring finger and middle finger way up in me and repeatedly stroke my G spot. I have never had more than one orgasm in a session, my hubby and this guy made me cum 14 times in about 2 hours. I was incoherent. Literally a rambling mess. I couldn't stop screaming everytime I came. I never knew that could be real. He also showed him aftercare. I've never had that either. It made it all so much more... soulful