Hi dear community. Wife and I took our first plunge into the whole "sex club thing" a couple of weeks ago while on a romantic getaway to Paris. Reading some reviews here was absolutely critical in our decision to go there, so I figured we should repay the favor by writing a review of our own.

A couple things that I think might make this review different/useful to others:

• We are absolute, utter newbies to this. Les Chandelles was our first sex club. We'd never done any swinging or swapping before.
• We went on a Thursday—every review we'd read was for a Saturday.

Summary: We had, without a doubt, an extraordinarily fun night. It was fun, it was sexy, it was naughty, it was surprising. Would definitely repeat.

My wife was very nervous about the whole dress-code thing, and she was certain they wouldn't let us in. It seems like the dress code was definitely strict (nobody deviated from it that we saw): slacks, dress shoes, a button down for him, and a dress & heels for her.

That being said, if you are dressed appropriately and look "ok" I would assume there's no issue getting in. It's not like everyone in there was a supermodel.

The door team was super polite and quite matter-of-fact. When our uber pulled up and we got out, the doorman immediatly told us "this way" and opened the inconspicuous entry door. There was zero milling about outside looking for the location.

Once in, you leave your stuff in a little bag, and they give you a little card to hand to the barman. You're allowed to take down cigarettes (very parisian).

Tomas the barman was absolutely amazing. He saw our deer-in-the-headlights nervousness and calmed us down instantly, explained the club and the layout, and the rules. He even offered to give us a tour to help us calm down. He also makes a great martini! (if you read this: kudos to you, man, and thanks.)

We got there around 11:00 and it was still kind of empty—again, this was a Thursday—but ended up filling up by 12:30 or so.

The average age was probably early 40s. I would say the women were probably a touch younger. There was one couple in their late 20s. (Wife and I are 36 and 37, although she looks like, 22.) I think everyone there except us was local.

Nobody was shockingly hot, although people were in quite good looking—the women probably better looking than the men, from my gaze at least, and very french: pretty, skinny, small breasts, leggy.

The space is clearly divided in two: there's the bar area, where you can dance but not play, and the 4 back rooms for sex. One is quite dark with a giant bed, one is bathed in soft red light with a bed and two sofas, one is small and almost entirely cushion, and one is a tiny circle with a pole and a pair of handcuffs attached to the stone wall.

Even though it was a quiet night, there was always something going on somewhere.

The rules around consent are: people can touch you. You can say no. If you say no, they will stop immediately. As an example:

There was a moment when my wife was blowing me next to another couple, and I asked the other woman if my wife could touch her man.The woman answered a playful "bien sure" but she was clearly amused that the question had even been asked and considered it uneccesary. Similarly, she did not ask for permission before touching me.

That being said, most of the action was self contained: there was not a lot of peeping or not a lot of groping random people or anything like that.

As first timers, this was perfecty fine and manageable and hot.

Absolutely everyone was having fun. There was lots of dancing, lots of talking, and lots of well, obviously, sex.

We had an absolutely unforgettable evening, and I'm certain my wife left 3 other guys with memories for their entire lives.

The bill, including entry, three martinis and two macallans, was $231 euros. Would definitely go back.

If anyone knows of a similar vibe in NYC, would love for recommendations. As well, if anyone wants any more details, happy to share. We loved it.