Hello all. 36M 34F Michigander couple here. My wife and I are quite overwhelmed and not sure how to approach the subject of how to become a part of the swingers community. We have been married for 5 years and been together for 7. Since we began dating we have always talked, and were open to adding a 3rd. We are both bisexual so we often are very open with each other about the qualities of other people around us without being afraid of jealousy. Although we talked about it, it never became a reality. After we got married we both created a Fet life account with the interest of maybe trying out the lifestyle of swinging or adding a bull to the mix. Sadly what we got was not a pleasant experience. We never had any serious messages aside from all the thirsty ones and the ones that had emotional baggage. We still have the accounts but have been reluctant to start using it again. We would love to be pointed in the right direction for help introducing us to this lifestyle in a respectful and thoughtful manner. We would love to go to a group meet up for drinks or games. We aren't the type of people who just want a quick fling with another couple. We are looking for good friends to hang out with and have some fun without the need for every hangout to be about sex. We are very new to all the terminology and rules so please be patient with us. Any personal help, information, websites, apps, or discord channels that could be useful would be an amazing! My DMs are open.

Thanks everyone!