A little back story. My wife and I have been married for 10 years. We have a loving open marriage and sex is fantastic. We have two children in elementary age. Both my wife and I are professionals where I am an accountant, and she is an IT professional. My wife is 5’5”, brunette, in incredible shape and works out daily I am just under 6 foot, Italian and in good physical condition. Without sounding too pompous, my penis is bigger than normal, and I appear to be a good lover in the lifestyle which plays a part with my situation. We are in our mid-thirties.

When we opened the marriage, it was all bliss for both of us for years. While my wife would have an encounter, I would get to see my wife, the women I adore, involved with “live porn” moaning and enjoying herself with another man while I watched. Every husband’s dream in the lifestyle. Her sex was so athletic and hot with all her bulls. The thing was, when it came to actual sex, most did not last more than 10 minutes. They could spend over an hour with oral sex, groping, and kissing, but the actual sex was usually short. My wife would moan and get very excited but would not orgasm. All good and so hot! After they left, my wife and I would have reclaim sex and I would make her cum. I would get that fantastic feeling of her vagina contracting and spasming on my penis. All was prefect in our world.

Well as you can imagine, we eventually met a guy that had the endurance, size, and chemistry with my wife to rock both of our worlds. She met a very handsome and tall guy at the gym and brought him home for sex. I was intimidated from the start. He was in incredible shape, and he had a very large penis. He was very skilled and conscientious of his large member not hurting my wife. They had constant dialog where he would ask if he was too deep or if it hurt. This allowed my wife to relax and trust him. There was a lot of moaning, and “oh yes right there” or “faster” or “slower”. After close to 25 minutes of very passionate and athletic sex, this man brought my wife to orgasm. This was the first time she had an orgasm with another man. Seeing her body writhe with passion and hearing her moaning was intense.

Watching all of this was probably the hottest thing I have ever seen. Afterwards, I had this intense feeling of loss. Something so special between me and my wife was now shared with another man. After he left, there was no reclaim sex (she looked tired). Neither my wife nor I knew that to do. We talked about the event and processed our emotions. We have recovered and now realize that other men can make my wife orgasm. So, for all the husbands out there, how do you deal with a situation where your wife makes a true connection? I know you want to celebrate her happiness, but don’t you get a little jealous and anxious that you could lose her? How do you deal with these very intense emotions and keep the relationship open? My confidence is a little shaken.