My wife and I were at a club tonight and hit it off with another couple. On the dance floor the other lady was clearly really into us both, with plenty of action going on with each of my wife and me. When we eventually made it to the play room, they talked a bit and he told me she was into my wife but not me. I was astonished and obviously disappointed but respected her choice. After a while, the guy and my wife started fucking and while I was standing next to the other lady, she started touching me and it became clear that she was fine with me doing everything I wanted.

We’re still new to swapping - is this a common occurrence? It obviously wasn’t wife poaching because there was full consent before and after the odd interlude. Maybe she didn’t think she was ok with being with a new guy? Maybe I did or said something that put her off temporarily? Whatever it was, once she decided she was cool with it, it was as if there had never been an issue.

Obviously no one knows what happened here except her and maybe the guy, but if anyone’s had any similar experiences I’d be curious to hear about them.

EDIT: I should have mentioned that they’re FWBs and he was an experienced swinger. Plus he had no negative reaction at all when she changed her mind. So whatever it was, it wasn’t jealously on his part.

EDIT 2: some people seem personally insulted by my view that this wasn’t wife poaching. They may be right and I may be wrong, even if I don’t think so (and neither does my wife). More importantly, if something like this happens again for whatever reason, bad faith or not, we’ll respond differently. We fully agree that either both of us play or neither does.