So I’ve been with my fiancé for 12 years we have a very active sex life even with two kids. We always dirty talk during and most of the time I ask her about involving other people she goes along with it in the moment but usually after days they’re nice fantasy’s.

Last week we were in the moment and she said she’s been thinking about it a lot lately and at that moment it wouldn’t take much for her to let someone else get involved. We’re both into the idea of another guy.

Afterwards we were talking and she’s been looking up swingers clubs and swingers club etiquette. She thinks she wants to go just to watch and be watched with me. I asked if we met someone she liked at one would she take the plunge and she said she likes the idea but it’s a big step.

I asked her about a meet up not at a swingers club and even offered her a pass but she wants me there even if it’s just to watch.

I’ve got a feeling even if we planned it she’d bottle it last minute. But I’d give anything to watch someone fuck her just the way she likes.

Any advice on encouragement or reassurance to get her to take the step?