The wife and I recently had our second play date. After the first one we were on such a sex high that we spoke about it for like five days now we pushed the limits a little bit further than we did the first time overall, it felt like a more free flowing experience. I want to talk to her about everything that happened. Not in a bad way, but I want to know how she felt her about everything that happened. Not in a bad way, but I want to know how she felt what she liked., what she liked, what she didn’t, like, what she would do different, and if she would want to do it again.
Her on the other hand is having a hard time talking to me about it. I think she is still too wrapped up in her head.
For the experienced couples, do you have a process you go through with your partner after you play with another couple?
Idk if this helps, but we just talk about likes and dislikes on the way....there is no process and it's just a thing you have to do.
You might need to have a conversation about the importance of communication and deconstructing the events to understand how to support each other better or to be able to set up better encounters next time.
It's important to talk and it sounds like she's struggling with that, so it might be worth just discussing that.
Seems potentially off that she doesn't want to talk about it. Probably just processing some new things. Just be patient and reassure her that you are happy to discuss when she's ready.
On our latest adventure, there were things we discussed right away and other details that didn't until later on.
Yea I’m starting to see that that must be a common feeling for some when they are starting off this journey. I’m will ease off and allow her the time and space she needs to work through her internal battle
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This sounds exactly like us! Thank you for sharing. Knowing my wife I can completely see her feeling guilty for enjoying any part of it. For so many years we thought the same way as most people. Any type of interaction with another person was cheating and cheating is wrong. Obviously this is not cheating but after reading your thoughts I can imagine she may be struggling with accepting that she felt pleasure from someone else.