My wife and I have been in a quad type relationship for several years now. We both have stable ongoing sexual relationships with each spouse of another married couple. We swap spouses on average about once a week. The next day, I always have a strong desire for a reclaiming type moment. Sometimes my wife reciprocates that, but often times she does not at all. She has expressed that part of it is wanting to linger on the feeling of being with her partner for a while, whereas I want to immediately reestablish my connection with her. It’s caused a lot of hurt feelings on my part, and a lot of frustration on her part with me trying to initiate something that she is not feeling. Am I alone in this? Anyone else have a similar experience? I’m especially curious to hear from other women in the lifestyle. Thank you!
Maybe reclaiming is the wrong word. We call it reconnecting. My wife and i have an agreement on how we view our experiences in the ls. We both see the play first finished when we had oure reconnection sex. We came to this term after i did come with another woman, and she felt left out. It doesn't have to be on the same day but surely on the next one.
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