I have had a fetlife account for sometime, my wife decided to create her own this weekend.

a dude instantly started sending her countless messages that clearly crossed a line. very vulgar and worst part was he referred to her by her name. clearly freaked her out. She only had 2 photos up, neither nude, neither had her face just a bit of hair and body shot. her sleeve tattoos were somewhat visible but none of her less generic ones were. Sleeve tattoos are somewhat recognizable but you’d have to really know her to pick them out.

so careful what you post but more so….. just don’t be that fucking guy. she immediately deleted the photos and debated deleting her profile. but she settled mostly because she has occasionally used tinder and found plenty of people we know. most aren’t weirdos, most are curious and respectful. a few guys have tried to hit her up through social media as a result but they get blocked.

we aren’t overly discreet with our LS but how that guy handled it crossed way too many lines.

I see people I know as well, I don’t let them know I know them, I don’t expect anything from them and if we do talk I am upfront and polite about it.