My husband (46m) has been pressuring me (38f) to have a threesome for about 2 years now. We have been together about 20yrs where he has cheated a few times and I took him back. I have never cheated on him. He now has the kink of wanting to watch another guy and me fool around. He also wants to be involved sometimes, while watching other times. He has been very persistent in trying to find us someone that we both find attractive and want to mess around with (so much harder than it sounds). He has shown me several men trying to get me into the idea. I am more reserved sexually and think it would be a bad idea for our marriage as he has always been the jealous type throughout our relationship. Aside from that, I don't really have any interest in sleeping with someone else. Regardless of my reservations he has been extremely persistent. Reassuring me the whole way that it will be fun and he won't feel upset at all. It has gotten to the point where he has found a guy who is interested so he wanted us to chat on snap to feel each other out and see if there was any chance I would want to do anything with that guy. Since then, my husband has been acting jealous. He reads all the messages as I give them to him to see. He says that is part of the kink and likes to see me talk dirty to the guy, he reads later and pleasures himself to the messages. He has said a few things that were very jealous like "you get more naughty with him than me" and "you took that sexy picture for him and not me" ect. So we let this guy go, he was not the right fit. We found someone else and he encouraged me to flirt with him and for the guy to flirt with me. Then he got mad and said we were starting without him, he started acting very jealous so I called it off. He is still pressuring me to do this even when he is obviously so very jealous about it. Please help me understand what is going on here and how I should approach things. I am so confused how he can be jealous and angry and still be the one pushing me to try this. I am so confused. Anyone else experience this???