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My husband and I (both 37) have been making our way in the scene and figuring out what is and is not a good fit for us. So far we have had a lot of fun with single male partners and a few enjoyable encounters with other couples. My husband is bi and I am straight, we are very open and clear with others about our orientations with others. And more often than not, even though other couples have said they were totally ok with it, when things would heat up, the female partner would make passes I was uncomfortable with, or the couple would be kind of aggressively suggesting how much more fun it would be if I just loosened up and went with it. Like, I’m not going to be distraught if you grab my chest or smack my ass, but I don’t know how else to say that it’s just not my thing. It really takes me out of the moment and thankfully my husband is right there with me on it. We’ve even had times where we completely stopped playing and left because of it.
So I guess what I’m asking, is that if this tends to be a common occurrence? Or are we just cursed with a string of bad luck?
Yeah that’s total bullshit if they’re making moves in the bedroom after you’ve been clear.
Also, thank you for being clear. We have talked to way too many couples where the girl is clearly not bi but the husband will try to give as much hope as possible to make the swap happen. “She’ll at least let your wife go down on her but she doesn’t go down on others,” and “she’s not really bi but I think she’d be okay with some girl girl play if she was turned on” see things we’ve heard recently.
That’s what it seems to be. Mostly guys wanting to do the swap hoping their wife will do some girl girl stuff to make it happen
you are bi-comfortable. tell them that means you are not bi, but you are comfortable if they are.
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I've had the same experience. For some reason, women seem to get a pass when it comes to whole consent thing.